Friday, February 23, 2018

I am Sorry to Ever, Erin and Iris

I am sorry that yesterday I didn't really say anything interesting about my daughters except that they're cute and demanding. I know better.

I mean, they are cute and demanding (KIDS! WHAT CAN YOU DO?) but they're also pretty impressive humans.

And it wasn't until I became a mother I realized you really have so little to do with how they turn out. So you'll note I am not bragging when I write these three things about them:

EVER
This morning Ever asked me to write a note to her Chinese immersion teacher to explain a "homework situation" we had this week. I wrote the note and gave it to Ever. Ever took the letter and EDITED IT. Crossed out words, and added a few that punched in the punctuation. And then she handed in back to me.

Well. Hey. I mean...this blog is a digital testament of my inability, impatience and uninterest in editing. As a writer I am a one-draft-wonder. If it's not a sloppy first draft, missing words and parading spelling errors, it's definitely not mine. So it was quite the moment for me this morning to watch my seven year old daughter completely destroy my Post It Note dispatch to her teacher.

"I think we should start the note with the word 'Unfortunately'," she said to me with the pencil tapping her lips. "Because it is unfortunate what happened with my homework."

Part of her homework each week is to write an essay. I look forward to this ritual every week. I have never read her anything of my own writing, and yet she sounds so much like me when she writes. But better. Funnier. Clever-er.

A great joy in my life is watching her artist's soul develop in compelling--if not complex and confusing--ways. She expresses herself mostly through art--drawings, essays, letters, paintings, sculptures which means our relationship communication is often done non-verbally. When I want to know how she is doing, I sift through her creations like a detective looking for clues. It's there in her creations I find my daughter--her heart-breaks, the fears that keep her up at night, and her silly schemes I hope never go away.

ERIN
A couple months ago Erin begged me to take her ice skating. And for a week I put it off. Every night before bedtime I'd say to Christopher, "Well, tomorrow I am going to have to come up with a new excuse to not go ice skating." And the pathetic thing is that we have an actual Olympic rink one mile down the road from our house that charges a few bucks to free skate.

Now, I've been called a great many things in my lifetime, but one perennial favorite of those who know me say I can be a bit...unyielding, but when it comes to ambition and tenacity, Erin makes me look weak. In a battle of wills I am useless. In short...we went ice skating.

I bought her a ticket to skate, helped her lace-up the gray sturdy ice skates we rented, gave her a few pointers I picked up from living in Quebec and sent her out on the rink.

Well, as soon as those rented blades hit that Olympic ice life changed. Her body instinctively assumed a graceful pose so natural and lovely it was undeniable she had a gift. And it was like I knew who she was, and I knew who I needed to be for her going forward. It was nothing short of a wondrous reveal: a sublime moment where your life--all of the bizarre turns and tricks played on you--suddenly make sense. In that curious moment, my body which made her body reminded me of the defined chemistry created for this one, unique human being.

Most of parenting is such a dry practice, you know? It milks you raw most days. But now when we show up to the rink for her regular skate, I know we'll both come home happy and full. We're doing what we were always meant to do, even if it never means anything other than a couple hours a week with her rented skates and my cold seat on the hockey bench watching her spin gloriously and smiling from the sidelines.

IRIS
It has been my experience that you live with strangers when you have children. How are you supposed to know who these people are? They haven't even lived! They have very crude opinions and most of them are just about simple survival. You may be living with an ax murderer for all you know.

But right around four years old I start to get a clearer picture of who I am feeding at the dinner table every night. And its been different for every child. Always surprising. Always a twist you didn't see coming. It's like those unboxing videos my kids love on YouTube (that they only watch in SMALL DOSES!)( Unless I am distracted/sick/overwhelmed/overstimulated and need a long break! Ok, just being honest!).

Iris has been no different. Here we are hauling to the end of her toddler paradise, and she's surrendering her self more and more each day. And the big surprise is how much I like her. I like talking to her. I like listening to her. I like having her around. She's astute and aware (thanks to Mrs. Morgan the world's best preschool teacher for cluing me into those characteristics). When we go to the library she picks out books with Martin Luther King Jr's face on them (WOKE). And she uses her verbosity to say the best things. For instance, just now she said, "Mom, do you understand how important zombies are to me?"

YouTube. That's how she knows about zombies. You know there's a whole culture dedicated to toddlers whose love of Halloween knows no season? Come over some time and she'll read to you her favorite book B is for Brains which has taught her the ABCs of a zombie apocalypse.

Yes, in between binges of YouTube, I actually let my kids read books. Especially zombie books because don't you think there's something endearing about a three year old who can tell you the most apt way to defeat the walking dead?

I told you, these girls are so much more than cute.


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Thursday, February 22, 2018

I am Sorry to Orem

I regret saying that "I hate Orem" yesterday.

Because I don't actually hate it. Orem is our neighbor, and I've spent too many tax dollars there on account of their lurid retail possibilities to be so unkind. Why, I've helped build Orem! The schools! Public works! Salaries for its first responders! I've spent enough at Costco alone to build a new baseball field for Little Leaguers. I am not bragging either. We're solidly middle class around here. I am not some big spender. I am just an average woman enticed by the H&Ms and Targets of the world. Ok. Actually,  I have really really really reigned in my spending and I am kind of proud of myself currently because I try to give away more than I spend and I am doing pretty well on the whole. I've recently realized I don't want a life of full of stuff I have to clean, manage and maintain and I also want to be cured of my consumerism (it's a disease). But this about my apology to Orem.

I even went to college there.

But I still don't want to retire there. I hope you understand.

(You, whoever is reading this.)

Anyway, wish I could post some pictures of our grand adventure to Lake Havasu last weekend, but I took up all of my blogging time at Costco. This is not a joke. Ah! Life!

Now it's time to take the kids to the library. I am not trying to brag (because it's a real frustration) but my kids read so rapidly I can't keep books in house for very long. Anson reads a book a day almost, and then if we don't get him a new book, he'll read the same book twice in a row. This is a kid who wouldn't learn his alphabet until he was probably six years old and he had to go to early morning reading intervention in kindergarten with the nicest reading specialist on the planet. I am telling you, this teacher is the reason he has such an insatiable appetite for reading. Once he learned, he became rabidly curious about books and information and everything interesting about this world.

I hope you (out there wherever) needed to hear this story today about one boy and his reading journey. Or maybe you needed to hear about Orem. I don't know. But now my kids are yelling at me because I am not moving fast enough.

Let me at least post one picture. Because Photobucket these days is NOT CHEAP! Might as well use the account if I am going to pay precious money that COULD'VE gone to Orem Days Celebration City Fair (or something).

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This is a picture of Ever, Iris and Erin in Las Vegas last weekend with their Starbucks hot chocolate. I said HOT CHOCOLATE. (That's for my Mormon family who might be tempted to judge me for letting my kids drink sin.) Anyway, they basically spend most of their lives asking me to get stuff for them and saying Mom Mom Mom twenty times in an hour.

But they're cute.

Oh and I just remembered one more thing: Anson, Prolific Reader and Blessed First Born of My Womb was born in north Orem, just below Utah's fourth tallest peak, Mount Timpanogos.

So really, I have no room to hate. See? We're good.








Wednesday, February 21, 2018

Looks Like I Have The Guts

See what happens tomorrow on this tantalizing blog! Maybe I will see if I can get my abandoned photobucket account to work so I can post some pictures from our weekend's exploits in Lake Havasu! In the meantime here's one of me I think I took when I thought the camera was the other way around during a sunny snow blizzard I ran into during my daily walk.
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I still have an iphone 6 and I am not even ashamed. I do not however have an affinity for the Yankees it's just that I think Christopher found this hat somewhere and it's really warm.

Ok, time for preschool pick up.

Hopefully the next time I write it will not be to let fam know how things are going in the Sunset Senior Assisted Living Home in Orem.

 Lawds, how I hate Orem.









And Yet...

...here I am pushing publish. Again. Just to see if I have the guts.



TBH

After I wrote the previous post (below) this post I decided I should probably stop writing all together. It was just so distinctly meh for me.