Wednesday, November 7, 2012

To My Children About The 2012 Election

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Dear Children,

I tried to explain voting to you yesterday as we waited in the Rite Aid parking lot for Dad to buy some Advil (he's croaky and sore-throated). We counted all the people wearing red circle stickers declaring "I Voted" and we talked about how we vote for leaders of our country. Anson, I think you understood because of a recent viewing of Spy Kids wherein the spy kids help the President of the United States. Ever, you were concerned about stealing Squishy's sucker the bank teller gave us (you had already enjoyed your own) and Squishy, you were concerned because Ever was successful.

Dad had left us in the car because I was too tired to bring everyone in for a shopping trip so we waited in the parking lot. It was cold, I think Dad was worried about us because he left the car running. A couple minutes later, as we watched other sick people going in and out of Rite Aid--some coughing, some sneezing, some with red circular stickers on their sweaters and  some without--I became worried about all the emissions our car was putting out into the air and I shut off the car. Moments later the sun came out and warmed us up through the windows.

You know--or you will know, when you study history--this election was important to us as Mormons. It was the first time we've been able to vote for a Mormon for the President of the United States. Gov. Romney didn't talk much about being a Mormon on the campaign trail, but there was a lot of discussion elsewhere, about who we are, what we represent, what is in our hearts. I've never been more proud, actually, to call myself a Mormon than this past year 2012.

But it was hard. We're not used to being in the limelight as a people. So there were some growing pains. Growing pains are those aches you get when you lie down at night in your bed--the stretchy ones in your legs and arms. That's sorta what it felt to be a Mormon this year, for me, stretched and stretched.

In that stretching I learned to pray and study, to think and to contemplate. I listened to my heart and my hopes. It seemed the more I asked to learn about the issues surrounding this election the more I was given by the way of articles, conversations, Book of Mormon passages and solid observations. And I thought a lot about you and  your future, I thought about me--what feels good to my spirit.

I found that I worry about those emissions in the air. I worry about all those people coming and going out of Rite Aid--are they getting the care they need? I worry about teaching you, my children, about equality. (Ever, you had your sucker, it wasn't ok for you to steal Squishy's just because you're older!) I worry about people who have less than us, children who come from other countries where they are unsafe and I worry about parents who need help raising their families. I want to give my taxes to programs, places and people who need genuine help. I want to raise you, my children, in a clean environment (that's why we've been walking so much lately to the places we usually drive).

And after I assessed all these things in my heart. And after researching other subjects like women's rights and economic growth, I felt peace in my mind about which party addressed these needs in the same way I would address them. I do think all parties want to solve our pressing problems, there is a lot of good to see in our hopeful leaders. I voted with a clear conscience yesterday when I went to the booth.

On election night, after we put you to bed, I watched the totals come in downstairs in the den. I was nervous. I pulled and tugged at my hair until there was a nest of rejected hairs on the carpet below. In the end, I felt like a winner. The party I voted for won, and the religion I love--and I hope you'll love--won as well. We came through the "Mormon Moment" unscathed, for the most part. Gov. Romney was so genuine and sweet in his concession speech. I thought it was in his concession speech he best represented all of us Mormons (although, I am certain that wasn't his intention, he was just being himself).

Now one more thing, the one virtue I cherish most about the gospel is agency. The power to choose and act is the greatest power we have been given by God. When you are 18 you will have the ability to choose for yourself as a member of the United States. I only hope you'll spend the time and energy studying out the issues at hand, and act with your conscious. We may disagree, we may agree, it won't matter to me, as long as you see yourself intellectually independent from me and Dad. I hope I'll have the humility to accept that as well. I'll start praying today.

Mostly children, I hope you'll accept my invitation to explore the absolute pleasure of arriving at peace in your own heart about issues that speak to you and platforms that create a passion inside. Like I did in 2012.

Loves,
Mom






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Sharon said...

Yes.

Jamie said...

Dear C Jane,
Thank you. For taking what my heart told me yesterday and putting it into words.
Love, jamie

Kami said...

Love love love this.

rychelle said...

LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE (do you think i can get that on here a million times?!)

GK said...

I love this. Don't even know what else to say.

Lindsay said...

I never comment but wanted to say that you made me realize that if you can have the courage to publicly discuss your vote and reasons for it, then I don't need to feel guilty for voting for Obama or feel bad for those who didn't win. (My compassion for others sometimes overrides my faith in my decisions-plus I tend to shy from confrontation)

Emily said...

I felt like it was a win-win too.

In conversations with my elementary school kids I think they got a sense of the complexity and thoughtfulness I want them to approach politics with. Because my not voting for "a nice guy who's Mormon too" had to make them realize there's more to it than choosing sides. And hopefully they will take that same attitude with them.

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Julie said...

Oh I loved this so. Must go share!!

Emily said...

Good for you! Cjane

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tallia said...

i love this. and i admire your courage to admit you voted for obama while dwelling in the land of utah. actually mostly i admire you for being able to say it without being catty, condescending, or self-deprecating. which is much much more than i could ever do :)

Melissa said...

Love this. Thank you.

Lidia Smith said...

I love this. I love this, I love this, I love this. My grandfather in-law tried to tell me that I should vote for Gov. Romney because he was a priesthood holder, and why wouldn't we want a man similar to the prophet to be the president of the United States? This is the reason why.

PS: Your captcha is taking me forever to get around.

Rachael said...

As another faithful Mormon who voted for Obama, well said.

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Erin Sugrue said...

Well done. Well said.

Marni C. said...

Thank you Courtney from a Seattle Mormon mom and Democrat.

beverly said...

Well done. It's a happy day for me and my family as well. It is lovely to hear how you arrived at your decision.

Cory L K said...

Thank you for so eloquently putting into words the process that I also went through. LOVE this.

Terri S said...

Good for you for taking the time to study the issues and vote what was in your heart. Whichever party you lean toward, the truth is that we all need to make some hard choices in order to move our country forward. I believe with all my heart we can get there, if we can just keep the goal in sight.

Amy said...

Well said C. Jane, well said.

Sarah Jane said...

I went to high school across the street from a LDS meeting house. I had no idea there were liberal Mormons. Nice to know the faith doesn't demand a certain political party. Blessings to you and your beautiful fam.

Alicia said...

So beautifully stated and descriptive of my feelings during this election, too. Thank you so much for posting this. I think it will help me in explaining to my LDS friends why a vote for Obama is not the same as a vote for the destruction of our country and the hastening of the second coming. (And yes, I have heard those things stated verbatim multiple times today.) Thank you for being an intelligent, respectful, thoughtful voice in the blogging world!

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Kerstin said...

Thank You! What a great post! Best wishes!

Anna said...

LdS have the opportunity, due to their teachings about agency, to be leaders in advocating equal rights. After all, nobody can really "choose the right" if they are prevented by law from having a choice at all.

Thank you for voting for the agency of those whose lifestyles you may not share, but who seek the rights you have. It is lovely to see you living the teachings of agency so thoughtfully.

AA said...

Wow, just wow. Thank you for this. I hope you don't mind me sharing it. Beautifully written.

Andrea said...

Your post gives me a fresh perspective that I very much appreciate. I live in Oregon and am also a Mormon. Like you, I voted for Obama. However, I admire Romney and found myself kind of sad last night that he didn't win. I prefer your win-win take on it and will try to adopt it. :)

Margy said...

Thank you for writing this.

sosilly said...

I went against my heart in the name of religion unlike 4 years ago. Why, why, why? I got so much crap then. I am not true to myself because of fear.

chrishunt79 said...

Crap crap crap. As nice and sweet as you tried to make this post sound it is crap. You are trying to sound all nice about supporting a president that supports womens rights and murder. 3rd term partial birth abortions is murder. Please explain to your children that. And that you support that and that it is ok. People like you should not be a mormon in all honesty. Romney is a man of God and would have led this country in the right direction. Obama has led this country completely off course and will continue to do so. I feel sorry for your children and their future and I hate to be the one to tell you this. This post is such crap!!

Creole Wisdom said...

I'm really proud of you. I can't imagine how brave you have to be to write a post like this. I hope other readers can be kind to you.

This is the beauty of a Democracy.

I feel exactly as you do. My concerns were eased when President Barack Obama won for the second time. I'm happy we live in a country where two men from minority backgrounds can grow up and run for president.

melissa said...

Thank you, dear Courtney, for being brave.

Rach said...

Thank you so much for this post, it made me feel so at peace with my views. Once again, love what you write, and you truly have a gift.

ashleesanders said...

wow, the first POSITIVE commentary i've read regarding the election. very refreshing. Thank you for the sensitive insight into your personal feelings. it certainly isn't about who has won and who has lost. I respect your take on that- and still would no matter what party you would have voted for.

H said...

You are a bully.

Ms George {Life at the Coop} said...

This is a fantastic post and makes me feel so much better about all the bitterness a Mormon friend has been posting on Facebook (an Australian Mormon's perspective on US politics). I love that not all LDS voted for Romney and that not all African-American's voted for Obama. It gives me hope that we are an intelligent people with agency and courage in our convictions and not simply sheep!

sherry said...

I have been an admirer of yours for years. Though I am one year your senior, I kind of wanted to be you when I grow up. I see so much of my best self in you. You've been so intelligent, and insightful. Your opinions are so well thought out. Because of this I am absolutely AMAZED that you could be this delusional. I understand your compassion. I applaud it. But it is more compassionate to give the poor and downtrodden a country that awards greatness and innovation. A country weighted down with big government can never supply such things. Look at Europe . Look at Canada . Look at history. Look at the scriptures. How can you and the half of this country you belong to be so short sighted? I am deeply disappointed.

Erin {pughs' news} said...

I love this post, Courtney. I think you're brave to state so openly who you voted for and why. I disagree with the person who said this post was crap, and the one who called you a bully. You write beautifully, and you make me forget about (and question) all the stereotypes about what it means to be a Mormon. Thank you!

Caroline said...

Dear Courtney,

Don't listen to the naysayers! This post is lovely--it is eloquent, honest, and thoughtful.

Your children are blessed to have you.

Caroline

jesski said...

This was beautiful. I actually feel a weight lifted off my chest as you put into words what I've been feeling so deeply but couldn't express so eloquently. Thank you!

Kacey said...

I just love this. You're the greatest.

Nicole B. said...

I love this so much. Thank you!!!

Raevan Blake said...

This was a great post, I voted differently than you but love how you describe coming to your decision. I think a lot of people are not actually ok with differing opinions and spew hateful words. I really fundamentally disagree and am very disappointed, but such is life and as President he deserves our respect and prayers. Thank you for your beautiful thoughtfulness!

Jessica said...

I am not Mormon but follow your blog. It was so heart warming to hear that you voted for the issues that you believed in and not for someone simply because you share the same love of a specific religion. I am also glad you told your children to vote and to vote for what they believe in. Being a young voter myself (25 to be exact) I got so much flack from my own mother for voting differently than she. I too voted the same as you because of the things I found important to me. As a woman, as a supporter of equality, and as someone who cares about my future. Receiving flack for being "young and ignorant" from my own Mom is so hurtful.I wish she could have said to me "I'm glad you practiced your right to vote, I'm glad you informed yourself, and I'm glad you stood for what you believed in no matter what." So thank you for encouraging that.

Mary & Marc said...

My cup runneth over. Your children will be proud and honored at the relentlessly brave mommy they helped raise. I love your heart (and your chutzpah!).

Trevor said...

A most excellent, thoughtful post. You have articulated your message well.

al said...

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS.

--chrishunt79 (and to all who agree w/ chrishunt79): here's the thing. even if the republican party won, even if Romney was the President, abortion would not become illegal. it will not pass through the senate. I'm tired of this same-o same-o debate. Do I agree with abortion? No. Would I ever have one? No. AND I'm a Democrat. SHOCKER, I know.
But the day the United States decides to take away the rights of a woman (against the Constitution) is very far away. very.

McEngland like the McCountry said...

You are one of my all time favorite people. Every word you write makes me admire you more. Thank you for filling the world with hope (and perfectly edible over-due babies).

Generation Twenty-Something said...

rock on!!!

lauren said...

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

n. said...

I've never commented here but I've read your site for years. I'm a 31 year old living in Brooklyn, NY, unmarried, lapsed episcopalian, no kids, working a 9-5 job in digital marketing and while I honestly never in a million years thought that we would ever have anything in common I have so much admiration for you as a person irregardless of this post. That said, this is my favorite post of yours ever because I know - based on some of these comments - that this may have been the most difficult for you to write. Your kids are lucky to have such a brave mother. Thank you being such an inspiration to a stranger, too.

Janna said...

Thank you for this. It echoes my thoughts and feelings exactly.

Lyndsay said...

Wonderful post, CJane!

KroonFamily said...

Today my little girl {10yrs old} came home from school and started spewing rhetoric about how Obama is bad for this country and how Romney would have been better and how Obama doesn't care about our nation. I was SHOCKED!!! I immediately sat her down and asked where she was hearing all of this because we don't have TV & my husband and I don't talk politics. She said she heard it on TV at school. I was so bummed out. I told her that when I was a girl I LOVED my president and I respected him and I LOVED being an American and I LOVED the idea that someday I could even be president if I wanted to. I told her Gov. Romney LOVES America and that President Obama LOVES America too. They have different ideas about what it means to help us all but they have both sacrificed part of themselves and their family and their privacy to try to lead this country in ways that most people do not. I told her I am going to pray that she can erase the things that are in her mind about President Obama and that she will LOVE her President and her Country the way I did when I was 10. AND... I voted for Romney AND I am not a Mormon and I STILL want my daughter to respect and pray for our President just as I will. Courtney, you are right, it is more important that these little people of ours know that they are unconditionally loved by us and God and that God can and WILL speak to them in their hearts about what is true for them. Thanks for walking in integrity.

Em said...

So many people have adequately expressed how I feel already, so I'll just thank you for sharing your thoughts so eloquently. I really want to copy this and put in my daughter's baby book and say it's from me. :)

Buen dicho!

Carolyn said...

This was a nice way to say that you voted for Obama but you still think Romney is a nice guy and you're glad that people were able to learn more about Mormons because of him.

I can tell that you have good intentions--I think a lot of people that voted for Obama did. The thing is, what you are saying you think is going to happen will not work--we know this because we have a perfect model of it in Europe--my sister (who is a very liberal Democrat and no longer connects herself with the LDS Church) voted for Obama in 08. Then, after living in France and seeing how horrible the socialist society is and what it has done to those people and their families there--she voted for Romey! And she is an envoronmental feminist who supports gay marriage! But she recognized that right now the ecomony and our huge ammount of debt is so vital. And really the president doesn't have all that much power over those issues--they are--and should be--decided by the state. And she cried last night and today because she is scared for her children--like I said, those ideals you have aren't bad ones, but it just doesn't work. We can't keep putting more people in the wagon and having fewer and fewer people pulling it. Pretty soon, the wagon will tip over because it is so full of people in it--and then where will we be? I just wish well meaning people like yourself would really study history a little more and learn more about what this type of government does--and I honestly don't think Obama really is concerned about the economy or the debt--he doubled it. And Mitt Romeny is--and that is why I voted for him. It had nothing to do with his religion and it had everything to do with wanting to try and steer our country away from this inevitiable financial disaster waiting to happen. I just pray that we can get leaders that really understand this and will change it before it is too late.
Let me say it this way. Should you run up your credit card bill to help a homeless person? Of course not--if you don't have any money, then work to get some, or make them dinner, or something else. Well, that is what our country is doing right now--we are using money we don't have to fund all these programs. And that is morally wrong--and dangerous--no matter how great the cause--we need to have the money first.

Long winded, but hopefully I made my point. Just something that maybe we can think about...

melanie said...

another beautifully written and very brave post. thank you so much for this, courtney. i've got a coke somewhere in the back of my fridge. next time you find yourself in los angeles, it's yours.

Karey said...

This is all very nice but I wonder if there was a little twinge as you pushed the button for the man who favors allowing partial birth abortion and who voted against calling it murder if a baby survives an abortion and is lying on the table alive and the doctor chooses to allow it to die, unaided, rather than save it. I wonder if there was a twinge of concern as you voted for a man whose policies toward Israel are irresponsible at best and more likely animous. I wonder if it caused you to pause that the party you voted for eliminated a belief in God from their platform until they were caught and then had an oops moment. I wonder if you think free cell phones and 47 million on food stamps is a better alternative than creating jobs so people can be proud of their accomplishments. I wonder if it caused a moment's hesitation that in front of the families of 4 dead Americans, Obama blamed a poorly made and hardly watched video for a spontaneous demonstration instead of what he knew (and said on 60 minutes, but later asked them not to air it) was a terrorist attack. I wonder if you think there's no end to the number of hand-outs we can give while borrowing the money from China. We could have had a great president who more than self his country loved. But instead we have a president who wants to be popular and hob nob with celebrities. Sad loss for all of us. Even for those of you who voted for Obama.

Chatty Natty said...

@Kroon Family, I had slightly similar experience with my 9 year old daughter on election day. She came home and told me that in her class the teacher asked the kids to show by raise of hands who they wanted to win the election. She and one other girl along with the teacher were the only ones that wanted Romney. She happens to attend a school with a large minority population and all around diversity that I have celebrated for our little Idaho Republican town. However what she shared with me next left me just as speechless as you. She said, "Mom, all the Mexicans in my class said that if Romney wins they will be sent back to Mexico and that all the blacks will be slaves again." In addition she said that one girl told her Mitt Romney was bad because he buys companies and fires everyone then sells them to other countries. And that everyone will be homeless and poor if he wins. This election more than anything showed just how far from the truth everyone on both sides can be. I spent time talking with her about how Obama and Mitt were good guys that just had different opinions on where our country needed to go. I know elections are passionate but I just wish we as a society could celebrate the good in our differences and not the other way around. What a better place our country would be.

Cortney said...

To those who are wringing their hands over the people in Europe and Canada, those poor souls- they would laugh in your face, I promise. I have lived and worked overseas and have met people from all over the world, including many Canadians and people from the most socialist, Scandinavian countries.

For the most part, they feel sorry for us. They don't wish they were us. Tell Canada, and Germany, and Norway, among others, that their policies are "ruining" their countries and I assure you they would tell us we are deranged and out of touch with our own reality.

I'm tired of Americans acting as though these progressive social ideas are crazy and untested. Numerous studies have been done showing economic growth under such policies. There was an enormous study done comparing the top 20 or so economic players in the world economy, and it was found that progressive social policies (family leave, medical care, etc.) help the economy rather than hurt it.

We might disagree as to the constitutionality, or if that's government's job, etc., but to wring out hands and throw them in the air as though this is some terrifying uncharted territory speaks to an overwhelming ignorance as to how the rest of the world works (and thrives, in many cases) under these very same policies.

Maria said...

Karey and Carolyn, you voiced my thoughts and feelings exactly. There are so many misguided people who do not know what they were voting for. We are Americans! We are free! We are not socialists!

Elizabeth said...

Hey C.Jane! So I was actually kind of shocked when I read this post that you had voted for Pres. Obama. I respect your decision and appreciate your honesty in sharing this. I was wondering if you could write a post about reconciling your beliefs as a faithful lds with a politician who favors abortion and gay marriage? I don't ask to controversial, I am just wondering what other factors, as an Lds, you looked at that outweighed these moral issues enough to cast your vote for Pres. Obama.

mirjam said...

Dear Courtney, thank you!
We are far away right now (in one of those awful socialist countries) but our prayers have been with Americas choice! Thank you for looking further then the hopeless few issues like gay marriage and abortion rights.
Affordable and reliable health care for EVERYONE is amazing and should be a human right. Every time I go to my very well educated and thorough doctor here in Vienna I say a little thank you prayer. There is no waiting time at hospitals or for procedures, I don't have to be pre-approved for anything that my doctor recommends, ambulance rides, mental health care and dentists are covered.
Health care is not free, we pay a monthly premium that has been priced according to our income and when I pick up medication I have a 5 Euro co-pay but it is absolutely doable for our family! I hope for a system like this for America!
Lots of love from Austria!
Mirjam

Tasha said...

Thanks for this beautiful post. Sometimes I feel afraid to stand up for my political beliefs, because they seem so liberal here in the land of Utah. Thanks for being so brave.

To those of you who disagree with CJane and want to belittle her and post your own political rant - STOP IT. Let the comments on this post stay positive. No one asked for your opinion here; save it for your own blog.

Heidi said...

Thank you for being so brave, C. Jane! I really admire you for this. It gives me encouragement to be more authentic to everyone around me as well.

(this message sent from Germany by a Canadian who is soon moving to Denmark: all places where I've never met/heard of/or read about any single person who is unhappy or disappointed with the government system in the ways described here--just needed to add this since there are some crazy assumptions being made about Europe/Canada in the comments)

Hannah Mudge said...

Commenting from my totalitarian socialist state of a homeland (Ha! If only some of these people had a clue!) to say I love this post and am glad you voted based on all the issues that are important to you. As an outsider it seems that embarrassing and extremist voices did the Republicans no favour in this election and a more moderate profile would do them the world of good.

Jerusha said...

C.Jane, this is the most insightful read I have read on the elections so far. As a South African looking in on the amazing election you just experienced, this was honest, real and refreshing to see.

Jerusha said...

C.Jane, this is the most insightful read I have read on the elections so far. As a South African looking in on the amazing election you just experienced, this was honest, real and refreshing to see.

Stacey said...

Seriously chrishunt79? I hope you don't think of yourself as a "man of God ". All people like you are so quick to assume the worst. Don't put words in Cjane 's mouth.
I'm appalled that you took it to such an ugly place. Appalled - unfortunately not surprised. You make me sick

Rachel said...

Thanks for being positive. As a Mormon who voted for Obama, and is thrilled he won, I can't believe some of the comments I've read elsewhere, criticizing Mormons who do just that. I think it's awful- not to mention against the church's statement- and so I am cheered up whenever I read something positive (and since you happen to agree with me, it cheers me up more. ha!) So, thanks for writing this.

Lindsay said...

Fantastic post. Wish more people in America thought like you do. Works beautifully here in Europe.
@Cortney - couldn't agree with you more.
@Carolyn - couldn't agree with you (or your sister?) less.

For a people who consistently drag religion into politics but cling onto their money - because woe betide someone who doesn't deserve it happens to get a cent - it amazes me that very few reflect on why this is in the bible...
"Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God."

Rachel said...

& I just want to add my thoughts to everyone else- I have lived in a 'socialist' country for 6 years and I LOVE it. Free health care is a right, and it is SO MUCH BETTER than in the US. And people here are SHOCKED when they hear stories about health care in the US. I've talked to people from all over the world, and none of them hate their system as much as Americans. So people who say that America is "free" and not "socialist", I think you need to do some research into understanding those labels before you turn a positive, hopeful post into something else.

Lindsay said...

Another conundrum. America's infant mortality rate is very high given the wealth in America. Currently ranked 34th - behind "poorer" counterparts like Slovenia, Greece, Cyprus, Croatia, Cuba, France (Carolyn :)) Pretty disgusting really.
Strange that those who are so concerned about a baby's life before he/she is born, clearly really don't give a fig once that baby is born.

Pol said...

oigAGThe election was America’s business, and so I have kept well out of the arguments for months. But now it’s over, if I read one comment by an American misusing the term “socialist” I think I will scream. Just because a country has a free health care system – that doesn’t mean it has a socialist government. C Jane – you are brave and beautiful and I love your honesty.

Sarah H said...

Cjane, your post was beautiful, though not so surprising. I love your writing and the glimpses into your life and those around you – and this is from someone living a very different life: An entirely secular career woman, mother of one in one of those socialist states a few of your readers find scary.
So it’s kind of lame that my annoyance with others’ perceptions about scary European socialism is what fuels me to comment on a blog I love. But I just have to clean up some misconceptions.
Even if all of Obama’s measures would go through, US society will never, never, ever become even close to what conservative Americans call socialism. Do not worry! You would need a real revolution for that to happen, and, as we have seen in Europe, hard-core revolutionary socialism was NOT a GOOD IDEA!
What Europe has is social democracy. We have full civil liberties, and governments that in most instances ensure the best possible quality of life for the majority of their population.
Let me tell me a little bit about life in Norway, a small country with one of the world’s biggest oil fortunes. We were poor. When we found oil, it did not fall into the hands of a few rich individuals or corporations. It was considered the people’s wealth. Part of it is being saved up for the pensions and health care of future generations. Like my daughter. And it has helped build a very well-functioning welfare state.

Sarah H said...

I work full time. I pay fairly high taxes. On the other hand, I have very low worries. If I get sick, I do not have to worry about losing my house. The maximum deductible is $300 – per YEAR. I have a choice in which hospital to use, provided the hospital has capacity. When I got pregnant, all health care was free. I did not have to save up in order to provide for my daughter. I got a year off work with 80% of my pay. I did not have to worry about whether I could afford to stay home or keep working, I have access to good, local and very affordable childcare. If she gets sick, I do not have to worry about anything but her health. All health care for children is free. I do not have to worry about the costs of a possible private education. Public schools are generally good, and going private would provide an educational alternative, but not necessarily better quality. Besides, even private schools are subsidized, so it wouldn’t break my bank if I wanted to send my children to, say, a faith-based school. When she is old enough to maneuver her little world by herself, I live in a society so safe that my first reaction if she isn’t home when I arrive, will not be fear, but irritation that she has not told me where she is. When she is ready for college, I do not have to have saved up thousands of dollars for her, since in fact the best schools are the ones that are free. Should she decide to study in the US like I did, or another country, she will, in addition to an affordable student loan get a generous cash grant to offset the tuition fees since she is not using the “prepaid” school services in Norway.
All of this also happens to mean that if I got accidentally pregnant as a single woman, I would not worry about being able to provide for her, and thus would be less likely to choose an abortion. To which access is extremely limited beyond week 12, by the way.
So all this means….I can work and live my life productively without spending too much energy worrying.
Some people in my country are extremely rich, since private enterprise is an important part of our society. Some pay a lot of taxes, others find ways to pay as little as possible.
Yes, we have poverty, we have class issues, we may or may not coddle our new immigrants in unhealthy ways.
But the majority here is solidly middle class and quite content, and most of the have-nots are being kept from total destitution. We have complete freedom of religion and thought, and if the majority of the people wanted a society more like the US, we would just…you know, vote for it.
Now, is this very scary?
(and sorry, CJane, for my rant. It’s not really fair to you or what seems to be the majority of your readers.)

Asha said...

I am so damn sick of people thinking just because you're a Republican, that you hate the environment, you're racist and a homophobe! I'm proud to be a Conservative and I'm none of those things.
I actually came to this site this morning, after being so frustrated by the misconception of what I stand for. I was on another site when someone made a comment about "my parents knew I'd be a liberal when I was young because I cared about people and the environment". Are you kidding me??? I care about people and the environment!!! To group people in a category and say, "you're this" is prejudice. When I read the line about "giving to people who deserve it" I thought, "oh, she's def a Conservative" because in this nation of ours currently, anyone can get assistance, even if they don't need it. No one checks up on these people, taking from others who really need or deserve it. A liberal government gives without question. A Conservative government gives to those who really need it.
I'm not angry because you have a different thought than me CJane but I'm so sick of the misconceptions and labels that Conservatives get. The little jabs and insinuations that Republicans don't care about others makes me so upset and makes me want to throw in the towel. But then I realize, I'm proud to be a Conservative and will be one forever.

Molpol said...

I love your writing and this post was a beautiful testament to moderation in all things, politics included. I know many people will be having trouble with what you've written but you did a wonderful job of demonstrating how much thought and care you put into a decision which was yours alone. Thank you for thinking so carefully and for being brave enough to share it.

And to those who are terrified about what this means for the country, I currently live as an American ex-pat in London and have benefited hugely from the National Health Service (and happily paid my higher UK tax rates to pay for it, as well as my excellent subsidized primary, secondary and college education - I paid less than $5000 a year to attend one of the top 100 universities in the world and #3 in the UK). In the 1950s, the UK made the decision that they wanted to ensure a minimum standard of life for all their people, no matter their circumstance, to include education, access to healthcare and enough food to eat and somewhere safe to live; I feel like a better person and part of a truly good society when I pay taxes to support that aim. No government is perfect and the UK has political problems up the wazoo, but if you fear ending up with a society like the UK or France, I can assure you that those fears are largely unwarranted. The values of helping the weak and limiting the potentially tyrannical power of the strong are Christian values as well, they shouldn't just be labelled 'liberal'.

autodidactress said...

Thank you for this, Courtney. I'm truly sorry about some of the negative responses you've received so far. I'm not a Mormon but I am a Catholic and I also voted for Obama. It can be a struggle when people who share our faith try and make us feel less than for discerning a different path than they have but I'm in awe of the grace you've demonstrated in this post. You know, I used to be a regular reader and then somewhere along the line I stopped reading. Funny that the day I decide to check back would be the day after you post this. I think I'll be a subscriber now.

Larissa
larissaheart.com

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BMarie said...

I have a question, an honest question, as I truly would like to know the answer. As a believer in Christ, how does one vote for ideals and issues that go against His word?As in, voting for a President who supports tax payer funded abortion and birth control and marriage unions outside of the model our Father laid out for us?

opposing feet said...

brave compassionate well written post, have always been freaked out by your religion you have done so much in your smart thoughtful posts to dispel my uninformed bias, I am an atheist but so humbled by your genuine faith

Butternutsage said...

Well done Courtney. I don't care who anyone voted for I just pray that EVERYONE will vote with as much contemplation and concern as you did each and everytime they go to the polls to make their vote "real". Thank you for a lovely essay, even if I am not a dem. (wink) I love you CJ ~Donna from Massachusetts

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Kirsty said...

Cjane, thank you. I have never loved you more. What I appreciated most about this post, more so than the courage that it took to write it, was the respectful manner in which you delivered it.

For those of you bashing CJane, especially her fellow Mormons please don't. It's judgmental and it is wrong. It won't change the outcome and it hurts you and our church. I wrote an open letter to Mormon's on my blog yesterday if you care to know more about my thoughts on this.
http://momedy.blogspot.com/2012/11/an-open-letter-to-my-mormon-brothers.html

Again, CJane, thanks for being brave, and thanks for being kind. You are a good example of or faith.

Paula said...

Beautifully written and brave to post publicly looking at some of the tunnel vision responses you're getting. One, in my opinion, shouldn't vote for a leader of their country soley on religious beliefs. It's much deeper than that. I hope you have printed this post and tucked it away for your children to read when they are older.

As a Canadian living in Canada, are we without our own issues? Nope. Am I thankful for where I live and the systems and services we have in place. DEFINITELY! Love my country!

Anne said...

Meh

Lynn Altomari said...

Beautifully written!

Susie2 said...

The theme repeated throughout your comment section that "free" healthcare as a right overlooks one fact. It's not free. And the idea that all pay through tax contributions overlooks another fact - many in this country don't pay taxes.
The letter I might write to my children would be an apology for the legacy of debt we have burdened them with. You and yours each owe approximately $216,000. That's a total of $1,260,000 for the Cjane family. Congrats on the new baby.

Townhouse Towny said...

I was worried you'd post about the election, since I knew from your twitter you voted for Obama, and I just don't want you to experience ugliness for your choices. I'm sure you will in other avenues anyway but I sort of hoped you'd hide from it here.

Silly me, you're a writer and a mother and a brave, confident woman. Of course you'd share here. And you did it beautifully. I've heard ugly questionable attacks about "black people voting for Obama just because he is black" and how unwelcome their votes are. Disgusting stuff, and so presumptive. I'm thrilled that you stand as an example that goes against the "Mormon people will vote for Romney just because he's Mormon" idea. People of the same race and religion as a candidate deserve to vote for that person and who are WE to question why they chose to - they are adults and it is their choice, whether for or against their kindred candidate. If you had voted for Romney and every single Mormon in existence had done the same, none of us are one inch above you or your reasoning. But its nice to see some going the other direction, because it reaffirms confidence in voters making informed decisions and hopefully shuts up some of those who would have stereotyped the Mormon voting base.

Sarah H said...

Well, Susie2, "Free health care" is not free, you are completely right. But if more people receive more "free" health care, more people will be healthy enough to work and help pay for the "free" health care.
Also, the US health care system is one of the costliest in the world, without providing care to all of its citizens. "free" public healthcare certainly has its problems, but tends to be more streamlined and cost-effective.

Townhouse Towny said...

I can't believe someone just asked how abortions help her as a woman. Maybe they don't help you PERSONALLY, but for women who are raped, they're kind of an important issue. It isn't always about YOU and YOUR lifestyle, our votes should be looking out for other people as well. You know, caring for our neighbors and whatnot...

Townhouse Towny said...

My grandparents were on welfare, trying desperately to raise their 6 children in sudden undeserved poverty after the war, 6 children they had because birth control was verboten as an Irish Catholic patriarchal family. Every single one of those 6 children clawed their way up the ladder and now have masters degrees and respectable jobs. Every single one of THEIR children have high degrees, some attending Ivy League universities. And you better believe this family gives back charitably, we make it a priority. Welfare saves lives, welfare leads to giving back to society. Welfare makes the American Dream possible for many. Don't let some ugly examples color your view of a system that helps the poor. Followers of Christ's word, eh...

Veronica said...

It's good to hear you express yourself honestly even though you will probably receive a lot of hate mail for it. You are a smart independent thinking woman and your children will always be proud of that. I'm proud of you too. (And yes, that was a hair pulling night but yay! it went well!)

kimalli1 said...

I have not really connected with you recently as a reader, but this post drew me back in.

I grew up in a family that never discussed politics. In some ways I think that was a good thing- my brothers and I all have very different beliefs that we have come to based on our own life experiences.

I find myself struggling now with how much of my own personal beliefs to share with my children. I do not think I will be able to go the way of my parents and not discuss politics, because there are issues that are just too important to me not to discuss.

If my children disagree, that is their right and I will encourage them every step of the way. In fact, I have started to ask my older daughter to discuss both sides of an "issue" to help reach an informed decision.

All we can do is let our hearts guide us in issues such as these.

Mathilde Inge said...

Amen!! We all need to accept the outcome in a postive way. We need to pray for the winner and respect the loser. I am very weary of the 2 parties and voted for independents, green party, and libertarians where I could. Its my little protest of the two parties and their inability to compromise. Love your braveness and love your post!!

Amy said...

Dear Mom,

It's been many years since you wrote us that letter. Things are rough. I understand that you're a good person who wants to help others, but how were you so naive? There are and always have been so many clear examples of where our country was headed. Greece, Russia, England, Vietnam, and the list goes on. In the pre-mortal life, we had to choose. One plan was the ability to learn for ourselves and make our own choices. The other was a promise of equality and that we'd all be taken care of. 1/3 of the hosts of Heaven chose the latter plan. I bet they were good people too that wanted the best for everyone. Agency is a gift. How could you not see that? Our agency in our country has now been taken from us. I wish the plan you voted for could work, but it fundamentally can't. It is morally wrong. Just like I can't take a sucker from my sister because I already ate mine. Even if my sister had 2 suckers, could I take one? Would that be right? But our country already had no suckers to give. Yet we promised them to all. Why couldn't you see that? It's sad to see how far we've come from the inspired document that founded us. Now we all suffer, at least we all suffer equally.

Loves,
Your Kids

Jess said...

I really connected with this post and am thankful for the many others within the LDS faith that have stated that they too voted for Obama. One of the amazing things about our wonderful country is that we have a right to vote and choose. One of the wonderful things about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is that they endorse no candidate, including members of the Church, they encourage everyone to prayerfully make a choice and to be involved. I needed your post today, yesterday was rough as the critics rolled in and were nasty in many cases. Thank you. Thank you.

Whimcees said...

Hello!

Beautifully written. Your words give me hope and I thank you for your bravery in expressing what so many of us feel.

Hugs,

Barbara Diane

silverwingscripts said...

I'm not a Mormon, but I've learned from you that part of your religious ideology involves questioning things and seeking the truth in one's own heart. I respect and honor that. In my best moments, I hope to do that. I live in a blue state and voted for POTUS, enthusiastically, the first time. I still feel great about that decision. However, this time around I felt passionate about a third-party candidate (gasp!) and I voted for her instead. I find myself in the position you find yourself in - being surrounded by folks who just don't understand my choice. It's hard to take a stand around stuff like this when people try to vilify your choice. I tell you what though, it felt GREAT voting for a female presidential candidate. And I'd do it all over again. Thanks for speaking your truth, Cjane. I have love in my heart for you. xo Leigh in Rhode Island

Elizabeth said...

I live in a small county in Alabama that is overwhelmingly Republican. It can be hard, at church, at school for my daughter, at work for me because quite often the issues that are important to us are different than the people around us. As I watched on Tuesday night I wrestled with how hard it is to vote against the flow - how hard it is for my daughter to be firm but gracious in defending her political position. I wondered if other people were in the same boat. Thank you for writing this. I can't even imagine how hard this election must have been for you.

Carolyn said...

I appreciate those who have shared their insight on this issue in a respectful way. I tried to do the same with my comment. Sojmetimes our passions lead us to rudeness and I was trying to avoid that. I think a good healthy discussion of these issues is a good thing if we can be respectful. I still feel exactly the same way-but I respect the rights of others to share. I think anyone who respectfully shares their beliefs on a b log in a respectful way is brave because they are doing so based on issues and not name calling. This post, like many of Cjane's posts recently, seemed meant to promote a healthy discussion. I think it is an insult to Cjane to assume that she wrote her post just to be praised for her braveness. Some great questions on both sides have been raised. Let's learn...and I musy saythat in this forum right now that has gotten increasingly hostile toward conservative thought, those comments appear a bit more brave to me..as long as they are being respectful of course.

dc said...

I wholeheartedly support the President and worked very hard to get him reelected. I actually am more liberal then President Obama but wasn't going to throw away my vote by voting for Jill Stein.

A friend posted this on Facebook and I know other Republicans who feel the same:

As an Independent who has voted Republican more than I have voted Democratic, this is the message I would like the RNC to take away from this election: stop catering to the religious right, dump the intractable tea party, put your money where your mouth is as far as individual freedoms and leave women's bodies alone, stay out of adults' bedrooms (straight or gay), stop the politics of hate, and move to the center. Until that happens, you will have lost the Independent and the women's vote--haven't the last 2 elections taught you that??

Barbara said...

Carolyn, you are spot on. I know CJane love your candor because she is a person of candor too.

The freedom to vote, when it is used for self-service, for selfishness, to follow a celebrity, to worship what is unworthy, and to do what is craven is a tragedy. That is the kind of voting a saw. Not just the outcome, mind you, but the reasons that people gave when they justified their vote astonished me. They simply astonished me.

The very worst one was "women's rights." This, with no thought to unborn women whatsoever, or the women like me who will be coerced into paying for the abortions of others. I am no sort of religious person, but I am an ethical person, and I find this repulsive.

As to the Mormon witness in this election: thank you, thank you, thank you from a person who has really no religion at all. Thank you for you beautiful ethics, your peace and calm as you try to accomplish good in the world, and for your love of country and family.

I was deeply impressed.

Charlotte Rains Dixon said...

I read your blog all the time, but I've never commented before. I just have to this time because this post is so brave and well reasoned. Thank you.

Andrea said...

Great post C. Jane. I too am grateful for agency and the power to choose for ourselves. I love this country that allows us to exercise this freedom and I love that this is the lesson that you want your children to learn. We should all be accepting of everyone's ability to choose. That's equality right there!

PS- You owe me potato soup!

Love,
Auntie Andy

Erin said...

This made me like you even more!

Sammi said...

hey Courtney, I don't comment much on your blog these days, so firstly HI! secondly, i was thinking about you a few days ago and the then upcoming election and i had an idea you'd vote this way and was going to message you on facebook about it because obviously it's a big deal amongst your community.

i think that american's almost worship their leaders and that isn't a good thing, i mean it's great that you put so much trust and faith in the leaders of your country. but i really felt as a total outsider that mitt romney was the wrong choice for america. we live in a developed western world and some of the attitudes, from him and other's in his party, like the views on women and rape and people from other backgrounds, really meant to us outsiders that your country would be taking a step backwards. and i felt that if i was american, the human rights side would have meant that i could not vote republican for that reason.
i think that you are very brave for voting the way you did where you are from and i think you're even braver for sharing that with us. much love and blessings X

Vesuvius At Home said...

I can't think of a better testament to your religion than this right here.

Andrea said...

Great post Cjane. Thank you for being a true moderate voice in the midst of the extremist ones. And ignore the ones that try to imply that you're less of a Mormon because you realize that being a "good Mormon" doesn't include voting to impose your personal beliefs on anyone else.
I was raised by parents who drilled into me that it was my duty and responsibility to vote, and at the same time refused to indoctrinate me towards one political party. I honestly didn't know until my teen years what their political leanings were, and I am thankful for that. Bravo to you for raising your children in the same vein, and encouraging them to truly find their own voice and develop their own views. It breaks my heart to see 8-year-olds distraught and believing that the world is going to end because we have a Democrat or Republican president. Someday there will be at least four voices in the midst that will be encouraging respect for either side.

Chanele Eichbauer said...

Thank you C.Jane! You put into words why I vote the way I do.

Sarah said...

It's interesting how you talked about the emissions of your car and your concerns with health care to try and get your point across. It's frustrating to me that people like you don't think that conservative people don't care about our precious earth and other peoples health. I feel like you voted this way to try and be popular. And then you posted about it to get approval from your liberal readers. If you would have just kept quiet with how you voted and didn't post about it, then maybe I'd believe you that you made a genuine and educated vote. This reads like a plublicity stunt. Bravo.

Amanda Cherry said...

I LOVE YOU CJANE. I had my heart in my throat when I read this, because I made assumptions about how you would vote, but knew that either way you would be gracious, as you always are. My heart felt the same way. Taking care of each other is "where it's at."
Also, I have not shared publicly because I'm only 7 weeks, but we are growing babies at the same time! Yay! (This one is my first).

Pamela said...

Oh, man, this was a hard election, wasn't it? I thought harder than ever about my vote and I was receiving 10+ political phone calls a day (Ohioan here)!!! I'm thinking about getting a t-shirt that says, "I'm a swing state survivor." ha ha : ) My biggest concern this time around is our economy. We have to create more jobs (not entitlements) and we have to drastically reduce our deficit. If we don't, it doesn't matter if you're rich, poor, gay, straight, etc ... life is going to get harder in America for everyone. The dollar hurts, the stock market hurts, etc. I want to see major cuts to our budgets AND a tax increase on the wealthy. I thought Romney promoted the best plan (he promoted an increase in revenue from a change in tax right offs & a change in budget) and cared the most about real change in terms of our economy, which I think must take the front seat right now. Unfortunately the deficit only worsened under Obama's leadership and I couldn't cast my vote for empty rhetoric. Here's hoping and praying that Washington can work together, humble themselves, take courage, and get our economy on the right track.

Cathy W. said...

lovely, thoughtful and brave.

Alli Hunter said...

Yes Obama wants to "give" everything away, including money our country simply doesn't have. "Give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach a man to fish feed him for a lifetime."

J said...

Barf Obama! I truly don't understand how anyone could vote for such a slime ball, who has no morals and is only interested in his own celebrity and fame. And really how could the murder of innocent infants not be at the top of your "do not..." list? But maybe only our own children matter, not the millions of slaughtered "unknowns." That makes sense?!

Hope said...

wow.i am reminded why i never visit your blog anymore.the self-adulation.the flattering words from the masses.it is obscene and puts you in a dangerous position.the book of mormon cautions strongly about flattering words.some of the words from your lovesick readers seriously seem to be drenched in sickening sweetness...at the expense of truth.i applaud your brave conservative readers for their comments, but i don't know how they can stand to visit this blog.all of this being said, am i surprised by your vote?yes.i took you for plenty of things but not a champion for liberal women.i would have not expected that.you have aligned yourself with the likes of jay z,eva longoria,beyonce, madonna,lady gaga,chavez,putin, castro,rahm emanuel,al sharpton,joy behar,chris rock,alec baldwin,bill maher,sarah silverman,cher,p diddy,snoop dogg,spike lee,howard stern,kanye west,barbra streisand,michael moore,george clooney,planned parenthood,gloria steinem,the scientists,the intellectuals,the godless and so many more.my bff's husband works at the jail in vegas.when the obama win was announced,cheers and celebration rang out.i don't know how you thoughtfully and ponderingly came to your conclusion,but for me you only have to mention 'abortion' and 'israel' before i know exactly who NOT to vote for.forget all of the other reasons to not vote for him.and as far as the buzzing 'socialism' topic on here,i guess we can trample under our feet all of the warnings our prophets have given on the subject.let's chalk it up to them being old and out of touch.this blog is your livelihood and this posting(and your other controversial ones)will give you lots of traffic.congrats for that too i guess.

ordinarymishaps said...

I'm gald that you voted your heart....I just wonder how it is we all view socialism and it's consequences so differently


STAND UP FOR FREEDOM – ALL IS NOT WELL. I am sorry to say that all is not well in so-called prosperous, wealthy and powerful America. We have moved a long way – and are now moving further and more rapidly down the soul-destroying road of socialism. The evidence is clear – shockingly clear for all to see. With our national prestige at – or near – an embarrassing all-time low, we continue to weaken our domestic economy by unsound fiscal, economic and foreign aid policies which corrupt our national currency. Ever increasing centralization of power in the federal government in Washington, D.C. is reducing our local and state governments to virtual federal field offices while weakening individual initiative, enterprise and character. With the crass unconstitutional usurpation of powers by the Executive Branch of the federal government, anti-spiritual decisions of the Supreme Court – all apparently approved by a weakly submissive rubber-stamp congress – the days ahead are ominously frightening.

Ezra Taft Benson April 1966 (Stand Up for Freedom)

Lucy said...

These are important issues Cjane. But so are the dead Americans in Benghazi. I'm sure they would like clean air too.

Toni said...

Bravo CJane for putting your thoughts and beliefs out there in a well thought out manner, and kudos to you for NOT insulting other's views in the process. That is part of the problem in our great country, people can't seem to allow other's a place to think for themselves unless their thoughts align. What people need to think about and try to understand is that just because you mentioned certain election issues doesn't mean that you don't care about others. It just means that what is most important in your heart guided your vote to Obama because you felt that those are the issues that are most important in his heart. FORWARD 2012

gardenwindow said...

Wow. So impressed with your bravery and honesty. Great example of being true to your own heart and teaching your children to do the same. Bravo.

The Dave and Tamie Bastow Family said...

Agreed with Sarah, it feels that way, like a publicity stunt to me, too. It is interesting how good intentions can be twisted to actually take away freedoms of the citizens of the USA and to teach and encourage them to live on the dole, rather than to work for their daily bread. Everyone agrees that we need to protect the environment and to provide a safety net for those, that through not fault of their own, are experiencing bad times. However, their are now so many people that live off of others, with no intention to work or to provide their own way, that the US system can no longer afford it and is speedily going into debt, which is without doubt heading us as a country towards troubled times that will be much worse than now and the past for all of our children and grandchildren. I hope that you can in all honesty, with a clear conscience, stomache what you voted in and against several years from now as the troubled storms, the First Presidency mentioned in their recent congratulations letter to Obama, are raging upon you, your children and the rest of America. Free Agency is great, however, we still have to experience the results of the use of that agency. The large 2 day drop, since this no change election, in the Stock Market is just the edge of the coming free agency storm.

Amy said...

Wonderful post!!! I so appreciate how thoughtful you are in your choices and how you really really take the time to think about everything. If we were all truly honest, we would vote for the issues that matter most to us and not for a political party. Thank you for your honesty!!!

Alli Hunter said...

Obama 2012 was something altogether different than 2008, because now we know the real Barack Obama. We watched him advance the most radical leftist agenda since at least FDR. We saw him rape and pillage the free market and impose a government takeover of industries. We witnessed him go to foreign nations and apologize for America and then leave our people alone to die in Benghazi.
Be proud Cjane, be proud.

Devrie Pettit said...

I have been a long time lover of you and your blog, but I am completely disappointed in you. I am all for helping those in need, but give them a chance to earn and work for things in life. President Hunters quote sums it all perfectly...
http://www.ldsliberty.org/the-book-of-mormon-and-the-modern-welfare-state/

Cheryl said...

Can a girl not have her own opinion without self righteous judgment being rained down in her? I voted for Romney but im okay if others have differing opinions! Seriously people! I wrote a blog post about the judgements and hate spewed out during this election.

http://cher-ingmythoughts.blogspot.com/2012/11/if-you-know-me-at-all-you-know-that-i.html?m=1

Elizabeth said...

I care about the environment, I also care about Health Care. I know what it is like to not be able to afford health care. It's awful. BUT I do not think that Obamacare is the way to go. I agree the system is flawed, but I don't agree with their idea to fix it. There are some scary things in Obamacare. Things that are taking away our agency.

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snarchy said...

Farewell little tares, farewell. I hope the wind will carry you as high as the inflation headed our way, and hope you don't have to feel as alone as the men in Benghazi or the good people of Israel in the next few year. At least you didn't look like those "typical" Mormon sheep that voted on the side of righteousness

The Stucki's said...

No.

LH said...

Obama supports gay marraige and is pro-choice, this is true.

Romney's business practices aggressively pushed tobacco on American teenagers and throughout Russia when the cold war ended, not to mention he profits from abortion through his Stericycle venture.

Is that how a "man of God" conducts himself? Who gets to make the judgement that Romney is a man of God and Obama is not? The idea that anyone would make such a statement is ludicrous!

The First Presidency of the LDS Church didn't endorse Romney. They simply tell us to vote our conscious. They were also quick to congratulated Obama on his win and asked us all to continue to pray for him and our country's success - as we should do always, for any president. Enough said.

Mimaw said...

You're awesome......I didn't vote for the candidate that shares my religious beliefs either. How can you read King Benjamin's address and not feel compelled to care for others, and the party that will allow that. Thanks for your bravery, and congratulations on being in the "family way" again.

snarchy said...

They don't allow us to care for others, they take away any choice we have and also the means which we can care for others, and waste it on government programs that are not effective. The government giving free handouts is NOT caring for others. It is robbing people of their dignity and teaching them that they are not able to care for themselves. We all want to help those in need. Take a look at the charitable contributions on either side.......I promise the conservative side gives more to those in need. I don't need the government telling me how much to give so they can decide from Washington who might need it. I know better right here in my own backyard. You all need to stop buying into the crap that the Democratic party cares for people and the Republicans don't. It is all lies, used to get votes, by enslaving people to the government handout.

Danielle said...

Are you sure you didn't vote for the president just to be different from your family? Maybe just a little bit?

Allison said...

so i'm guessing you and nie don't discuss politics?

downj said...

Doesn't your husband speak Chinese? That will come in handy. Start teaching your kids now. Your letter reeks of an uninformed voter. The only brave thing about this post is revealing how little you understand about basic economics and world events. BTW, China's air quality is really poor. You should do a blog post asking them to fix that before they move in. You do know that they own 1.2 trillion of our national debt, and the American public owns 980 million. You do know that our national debt has increased 45% with Obama, right? You do know what a national debt is, right? I am an independent, I really don't care if every social issue is passed. I don't want God or any other religion in our politics. I do want Americans, and apparently some Canadians and Europeans, to get their heads out of their butts and see the writing on the wall. If you are at peace I am pretty sure you don't get it. You can't feed and house everyone when you already owe more than you can pay off. Duh. Greece? Google it.
Alli Hunter, the fact that what happened in Benghazi had no influence on any Obama voter tells me Courtney, as well as many voters, dont even know what you are refering to.

Allison said...

but also i liked this post. everyone is entitled to their opinion, good for you for sharing it in a positive way

sarah, rsm said...

c jane,

i believe that if i differ from another, far from harming them, i increase them....but only if i allow them to be who they are: to be "other", different, not me! some call it mormon, some call it catholic, some call it jewish... i call it love. thank you for a wonderful example.

Pearl said...

Well said!

gracie d said...

Now try explaining to your children how Obama's support of murder lines up with the Sixth Commandment. All other issues aside, shouldn't the fact that Obama will actively support abortion (including partial birth) send you running the other direction? Your children may be better off from less "emissions" in the air but the 3,700 babies who have been killed today are not better off.

Maybe if more were willing to stand by the principles of their faith instead of "listening to their hearts" our country would be better off.

This comment is not posted in mean-spiritedness but in honest confusion. I don't think I'm the only one who would appreciate an explanation of how you could get passed the issue of abortion?

Scott / Lori said...

Thank you downj
And Gracie d

Amanda said...

I really loved this post, especially this last part "I hope you'll accept my invitation to explore the absolute pleasure of arriving at peace in your own heart about issues that speak to you and platforms that create a passion inside."
I think that speaks to the power and the responsibility we each have to figure out what we value most and how we see those values played out in the political sphere. I thought this post was so powerful because it was about understanding yourself and then choosing accordingly. I think that's a hugely important skill to learn, in politics, in religion, in choosing a mate or a career or whatever options life presents.
CJane, when I read these brave and soul-searching and insightful posts I feel like I get a glimpse of what a powerful and confident woman I can be if I keep working on myself. Thank you for the inspiration - your honesty and insight on this blog have inspired me during some pretty rough times lately. We each have our own path to forge but being allowed a peek into yours has helped me have more strength to forge my own. So thank you.

Incanus said...

Well said
Downj
Gracie d
Amy
ordinarymishaps

and many others who actually understand at least the very basics of economics.

If I choose to give to my neighbor and help the poor, than I am blessed. If the government steals from me, keeps a lot of the wealth for themselves, promises the poor that they'll be taken care of and then gives them a pittance of what they took from me then I am helping those in need???!!! I really don't get it.

You know, if socialism worked, I bet almost everyone would be willing to share their money via taxes. But it DOESN'T work.

In just a few short years when the economy collapses I hope you keep this letter and teach your children how to learn from your mistakes. Just wait and see.

http://lewrockwell.com/buchanan/buchanan274.html
"11,000 baby boomers are becoming eligible for Medicare and Social Security every single day for the next 18 years.

Add in immigrants in that same age category and the fact that baby boomers live longer than the Greatest Generation or Silent Generation seniors, and you have an immense and unavoidable increase coming in expenditures for our largest entitlement programs.

Benefits will have to be curbed or cut and payroll taxes will have to rise, especially for Medicare, to make good on our promises to seniors.

As for the rest of our federal budget of nearly $4 trillion, we have run four consecutive deficits of over $1 trillion. To bring that budget to balance, freezes would have to be imposed and cuts made in spending for defense and other social programs.

From California to Wisconsin to New York, we see the process at work at the state level. Government salaries are frozen, government payrolls are cut, government pensions and programs are scaled back.

California and Illinois are on the precipice of default. Cities like Detroit, Birmingham, Stockton and San Bernardino are already there."

There's no possible way we can get out of this debt mess without the economy collapsing and yet people like CJane continue to be fooled by the propoganda that we're helping each other. The naivete of someone as eloquent as her is depressing.

I really do wish you the best and love your blog. You're an incredibly writer and a brave women. Do more research and really try and figure out if you want the government (think DMV, post office, education, and many other failures) helping your neighbor rather than yourself.

Rachel said...

I can't believe some of these crazy comments.

Guys, we get it. You voted Romney. So did 48% of the country. You're not alone.

But, seriously, what is the point of arguing with someone about her vote, when she's already voted? In one of the least swingy states of the union, no less.

Jennifer B. said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts CJane. I am truly grateful to have thoughtful LDS citizens represented in both of our major political parties. For those of you who question how faithful LDS also choose to be Democrats, you might want to start here. http://www.utahcountydems.com/content/view/300/126/

Neither party has a monopoly on truth or morality. We need good faithful Latter-day Saints in both parties!

ashley kate said...

Oh how I wish I didn't witness what I see everyday on the hospital I work at as an RN. Like you, I want to help others who are less fortunate than me. Those who are "down and out" and need the help of Medicaid to get them through a bad financial situation. What I do resent is when I see that Medicaid card tucked neatly inside a brand new Petunia Picklebottom diaper bag....or when I load a mom and baby into an Escalade when I just "paid" for their healthcare through my hard work and taxes. Unfortunately, this is not an occasional occurrence, but rather a DAILY reality. You see, my husband has not had stable, reliable work since 2008. I am working every possible hour I can as an RN to support my family. I would love my medical demographic to say, "housewife" and have the tax payer pay my way, but I refuse to do that. I have marketable skills and I will support my family as needed. I know this reeks of judgment, and I wish, wish, wish I was a better person than this. I am tired and I have such a hard time seeing people in our country misuse and abuse the "help" that you are speaking of.
There....I feel so much better now that this is off my chest!

Delfina von U. said...

cjane, thank you for the post and the vote. as a person, who spent some nail-biting moments, worrying what the future of the world would be like if another Republican won so soon after the disaster of George W.,I thank you. MY half of the planet is happy that YOUR half made the right choice.

LizHuntley said...

There's a big difference between being pro-choice (or in favor of abortions as someone put it) and believing that the government does not have the right under the Constitution to outlaw it. I love how conservatives are quick to condemn big government but then they want government intervention when it suits them, such as making abortion illegal. Also, anyone who is not pro-choice but then is against programs, such as welfare and food stamps, that provide much-need, live-saving support to the children who are born because their mother did not choose abortion, are the very worst hypocrites. Being pro-life doesn't end at birth.

I thought this was an incredibly thoughtful and reasoned post.

Sean and Steph said...

CJane, I am really proud of this post and of you. I recently attended "Time Out for Women," which I'm sure you know is sponsored by Deseret Books, and came away from it with a strong sense of how my beliefs fit into the current political atmosphere. For me, the Democratic ticket was the way to go. I consider myself a Democrat, would fit the description of a liberal, but consider myself someone who searches for logic and truth in a candidate. There are things about the Republican platform I agree with and things about the Democratic platform I don't agree with. But ultimately, for me, the Democratic ticket most aligned for me what I think are some of the most important themes of the church: our responsibility to serve, and the importance of individual choice.
Personally, I think a woman has the right to choose. Personally, I think everyone should be able to marry whomever they would like. Do these doctrines go against the church? Yes. But me telling other people that they aren't allowed to do these things goes against the church too. We don't force our beliefs on others. So, to me, the only responsible vote is for free agency, for people to have the opportunity to make their own decisions. That is their right, and if the religious right is concerned about it, they shouldn't be, their belief system supports that God will judge them for their choices, and His judgement is the only one that matters.
The talk of social programs and people being dependent and lazy is appalling to me. We are supposed to care for those less fortunate, to share what we have, and to help others up in their time of need. That is what these programs do. Yes, there are people who take advantage of the system, but it's not the majority, and let's face it, everyone needs help sometimes. When did we lose faith in the American people, that everyone is just looking for an easy fix and will never try to better themselves? That's not who we are as a country, and it makes me sad that there are people who believe that anyone who has ever needed help will never try again.
"Because I have been given much, I too must give." Helping out those less fortunate is our mandate and is CHRISTLIKE.

There are a lot of struggles ahead for our country, and we need to address them with an attitude of compromise and care for all Americans. I hope everyone takes the care and time that you did to review the issues, it's the only way this discord will become less hateful and more constructive.

Audrey said...

YESSSS!!! I am a democrat BECAUSE I am a mormon. It doesn't mean I agree with every part of the platform, but most of it's goals are much more in line with Christianity than the conservative goals, in my opinion. Abortion, with few exceptions, is a terrible thing. But so is leaving the poor, sick, unfortunate to fend for themselves in a very difficult world. Abortion is murder, but in my opinion, so is leaving good, hard working people without affordable healthcare so they end up dying of illnesses that could have been easily treated at the outset.

Maura said...

I am not mormon, but I'm a fellow Utahn and mother. I've read your blog for years, but this is the first time I felt compelled to comment. I admire your braveness and willingness to stand up for what you believe in. Keep doing what you do CJane.

Shannon said...

I love this post for so many reasons, CJane! you are brave and i applaud you for putting yourself out there

GustoBones said...

Too many people falsely seem to believe that Republicans want to let the elderly out to pasture, destroy the earth, and confine a woman to the kitchen where she belongs. These are all false in my estimation. On the flip side, this is what I see from the democratic party about women, "my lady parts" should be reason I vote, instead of my brain, my heart, my soul. I am reduced to a sexual object that needs my birth control baby and access to abortion. They seem to want require all doctors, medical providers and insurance companies to supply said service despite their religious/moral objections.(First Amendment anyone, anyone?)Talk about taking away choice. In addition, I think the medicare program is great, but if you run out of money, you run out of money. We are running out of money and we can't stick our head in the sand and not make some fundemental changes or our seniors really will be let out to pasture. Continuing to up the taxes on the "rich" is not a long-term solution. I am all for compassion, but if your agency is so important to you, it baffles me a bit why you would think that voting for the party that believes in more government, more regulations, more taxes, creates choice? I think it is a mistake to believe that it is compassionate to create a situation where people are reliant are government to take care of their needs. That takes agency away from the individual and hands it to government.
I appreciate you sharing your honest opinion. I am certain that nothing that I have said will serve to sway anyone who has strong political opinions, but I just had to say my bit. I pray for this nation daily because I do hope that your children(and mine) will have a bright future in this country.

Mornings with Milo said...

I love that we live in a country where we have the right to cast a vote for our leaders, a right that is not a reality for many across the globe. As a fairly well traveled woman, I have visited the slums of Guatemala and other areas where poverty is an understatement. Where girls are forced into slavery when they are virtually young babes. We preach "breaking the cycle," getting those children in schools during the day, teaching hope and trying to change the course of why would otherwise be a life of extreme poverty, hunger and violence.
I like to think that that same opportunity should be passed on to citizens in our own country. I completely understand that circumstances can be out of our control, but many, if given the opportunity to break out of the cycle of welfare can move on to be independent, prosperous people. I think in this day in age, having a little less than half of Americans on some form of government assistance is mind blowing. I am from a family of 5 children, all of us put ourselves through college. Between scholarships and student loans, we did it.
My husband and I have one child and a baby on the way. I fear for their future and the massive debt they will be laden with. I am an independent and do not base my votes on one particular party, I did vote or Romney this time. My husband and I are not wealthy people, we work hard and try to instill certain values in our son. I love our country and grew up in a very simple life on the coast of Florida. My parents taught us have to have a servants heart, to utilize our minds, to protect our environment and fight for what is right.
I understand that taxes are necessary, but let me be able to donate to the causes I feel led to? We will now be paying even higher taxes that this will not be as viable an option for us. Socialism has never proven to be successful, never. Furthermore, excessive government spending is not the way to economic growth. When China owns a large portion of our debt and that number keeps escalating, we should be concerned. By the way, China does not have welfare. They work for the government.
Lastly, both of my brothers fought overseas and did multiple tours. It makes me sick what happened in Benghazi. Sick. How many times could they have asked for help? The warning signs were there for months, yet nothing. So no, I was not thrilled that Romney was the republican candidate and I certainly am no fan of Obama. But I voted for those men who died in Benghazi who could not cast a vote. I voted so that my son and unborn child will live in a free country, where government does control every aspect of their lives including where a large portion of their check goes every month. I voted so that I do not have to fear the ever present terror threat that we are so ill prepared for. So that my children WILL be able to enjoy the environment, the freedoms that my brothers and so many fought for. Lastly, that the American flag will still be flying and not another country to whom we owe a debt we could never repay.

Jennifer Ricker said...

i so so so felt this same way. Thank you for posting!

Amy C said...

"Only in America can a president who inherits a deep recession and whose policies have actually made the effects of that recession worse get re-elected. Only in America can a president who wants the bureaucrats who can't run the Post Office to micromanage the administration of every American's health care get re-elected. Only in America can a president who kills Americans overseas who have never been charged or convicted of a crime get re-elected. And only in America can a president who borrowed and spent more than $5 trillion in fewer than four years, plans to repay none of it and promises to borrow another $5 trillion in his second term get re-elected." by Andrew P. Napolitano

I am not a republican or democrat, they're both messed up. But when this country collapses and China stops paying for our debt I hope you own up to what you've just said about helping the poor.

I don't know what messed up society we live in that needs the GOVERNMENT to help their grandma. I would love to put the THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of dollars into savings and be able to help myself, my family, my religion. But alas, we will soon lose it all. Have you looked at our country? Do you really think medicare and public education has helped us? Really? You are not that dumb, you can't be! We have more poor, more starvation, lower test scores, and higher taxes.

The government can't even keep the post office in business. I'm a high school math teacher and make a pitiful salary for a very important job. My dad's a fireman and couldn't support us without my mom going to work. Never ever ever ever has a government program been successful. Are you people morons?

Also, there are tons of charitable organizations that do a much better job of helping those in need than the bureaucrats in Washington. Our country would be much better off it we kept it how the founding fathers were inspired to create it.

Kimberly Bonham said...

I just found your blog and I am in love! New follower for sure!
Would love for you to follow me back as well :)

Kendal said...

Thank you. You put into beautiful words my thought process.

Erin said...

Beautiful post!

Lindsay said...

Isn't it interesting that all of us from capitalist European countries with socialist initiatives funded by high taxes aren't complaining? I guess you have to live here to realise why.

The timing of Jeff Kent's exit from Survivor, or rather his exit speech, is awesome in the opportunity it presents to illustrate a point.

First consider for a moment, this fact. THERE IS ENOUGH MONEY IN THIS WORLD FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE A ROOF OVER THEIR HEAD, FOOD TO EAT, AN EDUCATION, MEDICAL CARE ETC ETC ETC.

Imagine living in such a world? Wouldn't it be nice? We have a taste of it here in Europe. It is nice. Not scary. Nice.

WHY ISN'T IT THE REALITY THEN?

Because people, like Jeff Kent, earn excessive amounts of money at the expense of others. Nobody needs $60 million dollars. Fact is people go hungry so people like Jeff Kent can earn such obscene amounts of money.

And Jeff Kent bemoans the fact that if he had won Survivor he would have had to pay 40% tax on that million.

How oh how can so many Americans be so blind and fool themselves into thinking they are "Christians"???

Karina said...

Boooo! What a crock of baloney.

Write to Simplicity said...

Thank you for this post. It was beautifully written. Your decision was unexpected but enlightening to read. thank you for being brave and sharing.

Super B said...

I enjoyed this post. I will say this though, my husband and I have talked a lot about this idea...giving is good. Helping those in need is great. It is a commandment. We are to clothe the naked and feed the hungry. Giving is a blessing. However, forcing people to give is taking away their agency. It's taking away their opportunity to be blessed. Requiring people to give is like Satan's plan in our first estate. He wanted to make sure we all made it back to Heavenly Father and that is wonderful, but it was by force that he would do so. I am sure God wants us all to return to Him, but He will not force us to do so. We get to choose. I think the government forcing us to give is a step in the wrong direction...

Steph said...

I must say that I also disagree with this post, but people, calm down. The electoral college will keep us safe from the hoodrats!

martha corinna said...

It's unfortunate that so many buy into the idea that inorder for them to be right they have to make sure that others with different life experiencers and different choices are wrong. Happiness is peace, and peace can only be found when one overcomes the desire to be contentious.

gardenwindow said...

This comment section is a perfect reflection of the divisiveness that is happening in American politics. In my opinion, helped by media spin and soundbites, people on both sides truly believe the other side is evil. Cjane just presented her opinion, in an open, honest, but yet respectful and positive way. Unfortunately, many of the comments here did not give her the courtesy of doing the same. This article, which can be read as a transcript, or listened to, really sums up the problem... http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/478/red-state-blue-state
No matter what differences of opinion we may have with each other, we are all in this together, like it or not. And it is in our best interest, as a whole, to be civil to one another and respect each other's positions, even when we don't agree, or as the article says, to believe that although the other side has a different opinion, it is not because they are stupid, or ignorant, or evil, but just because they have a different belief about "HOW" to make America the best it can be for all. We all have the same ultimate goal. I'm truly disappointed in my fellow Americans who cannot respectfully state their opinion without demeaning the other side. Bravo, Cjane for presenting your opinion in a loving and respectful manner.

deb8able said...

You left the comments open so I'm guessing you wanted to hear peoples thoughts and if you only want to hear from those that support your choice feel free to delete my comment. For the life of me I cannot understand how you could vote for Obama. I've read your post several times because I wanted to make sure I understood the reasoning behind it and I still don't. Do you know what our economy is like right now? Unemployment? Our national debt? and you're worried about the environment and the right for a woman to have an abortion and be given birth control? Here's a fact - You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong - truer words have never been spoken. In a Socialist country the rich get poorer, but so do the poor. You are not helping people by creating more government agencies to take care of them and provide for them. There is no reason on this earth, that in this country, anyone should go hungry - and it's not because our government is handing them food, it's because they have every opportunity to get out and make something of themselves and if they don't take that opportunity then shame on them. Should we help people who are down on their luck, who need a helping hand - ABSOLUTELY - but to support them for years or for life???? NO! Obama has created more debt, has a higher unemployment rate than any president in history - and you felt it was in the best interest of the country to put him back for another 4 years to finish destroying what he started??? I'm glad you are at peace with your decision....Unfortunately the rest of us have to live with it too :(

Goates said...

Thank you for the beautiful message. I couldn't have said it better. I've gotten so tired of all the political meanness on fb. So, thank you for saying what I couldn't

Diggertoo said...

It's called church and state seperation. It's understanding that while some beliefs are contrary to my religion, I do not wish toforce those same beliefs on a non believer.

Lindsay said...

@ deb8able Could you please provide figures which back up your claim that Obama has created more debt than any president in history? Shouldn't be difficult for you to lay your hands on this information.

Unemployment in the Eurozone is at a record high. Do you think Obama is responsible for this too or do you think the current worldwide recession has something to do with it?

If everyone has every opportunity in your country, could you please explain why your infant mortality rate is so high? Because there is no reason on this earth, that in your country it should be.

caryn said...

I also, have never commented, but I love your blog, and I love, love, love!! this post. Thank you. Just thank you. I am so happy to read this.

Thank you!

Mary & Marc said...

Deb8able,it is sort of sad that you are quoting the Russian guy who grew up in Socialist country, whose commercials ran like every 15 minutes. Do you know how ignorant you sound....that Socialist boogie man thing...that's something that your party created to scare you...and it worked. Our country will always be one based on a classic liberalist approach as far as the economy is concerned, and franly Liberals and Conservatives are more alike than different in this area. You sound like a typical bobble head without a thought of your own---total oppisite of Courtney. Throughout the campaign, I heard a lot of talk and generalization of what Obama has not done, but did not hear much about what Mitt was going to do. How was he going to create those 12 million job exactly?? Let me just put this plainly, we started this country with 0% debt, it took us approximately 240 years (1765-2001) to amass 4 trillion dollars of debt (relatively slowly), in a very short 8 years, our debt tripled to 12 trillion dollars at the hands of the republicans (I am not a mathematician, but that is staggering), not to mention the budget surplus that was decimated in those years, and now, all the GOP party can do is tell Obama to stop "blaming"...open up your eyes and see that it's all relative. The stimulus plan could have had a better impact if the banks actually used it for it's intention to stimulate, but instead, they hoarded or better, rewarded the inadequacies of their executives, and in the end this, coupled with consumers being so afraid (naturally) to part a dime until things shaped up that drove our aggregate demand into an abyss. The problems that the Bush Era created on a sociological, economical, and psychological level were so epic, that it is a small miracle we didn't slip into a depression, and you know what, we are creeping our of a recession, and that alone is a small miracle. I kept hearing from Mr. Romney that they were going to "fix" this, but how pretell? I was just watching, waiting, listening intently, but never heard of any plans. Mr. Obama was and is a man with a plan, you must remember that Obama managed to get the largest piece of legislature in US History passed and guess what, this "soicalist" problem (aka-universal heathcare) you Mr. Romney could takecredit for it, because he created the blue print for it, except the only problem with that was his entire campaign is based on what a horrible idea that was...go figure...

Jordan said...

people watch too much fox news is all I can say.. I love you Cjane and am so glad I can stand on the same side as women like you and Natalie Holbrook.

Mary & Marc said...

By the way deb8able, when Bush took office, the unemployment rate was 3.9% (thank you Mr. Clinton), by the time he left, it was 8.3%, as of today, it is 7.9%, are you started to see a trend...and understand what happened the 8 years that your beloved Republicans were in office...they DECIMATED the economy, and since Obama, we have been in a slow recovery...not falling off a clif like we were.

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Sarah said...

Instead of everyone patting each other on the back for who they voted for...lets all continue to love one another regardless of what side of the political aisle one is on. I do wonder how your post would have been written if Romney had won?

p.s. I do have a hard time figuring out how you could ignore the right to life issue as a person of faith? How is this teaching our children equality....equality that starts from conception.

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Teresa said...

Cjane, I am not surprised by your post, but I am disappointed. Conservatives believe in caring for the environment and caring for others and most of the things that you care about. But we also believe that we should be able to give of our own accord and we don't believe that the government is the most efficient solver of problems. I donate to feed the hungry and care for the poor. I want universal healthcare, but I want it to be controlled by the states and private insurance companies, not by a vastly growing federal government. I want to improve the environment, but realize that doing so will require a strong and stable economy to fund such projects. I read a quote today by President Howard W. Hunter that so explains the way I feel..."If man will not recognize the inequalities around him and voluntarily, through the gospel plan, come to the aid of his brother, he will find that through ‘a democratic process’ he will be forced to come to the aid of his brother. The government will take from the ‘haves’ and give to the ‘have nots.’ Both have lost their freedom. Those who ‘have,’ lost their freedom to give voluntarily of their own free will and in the way they desire. Those who ‘have not,’ lost their freedom because they did not earn what they received. They got ‘something for nothing,’ and they will neither appreciate the gift nor the giver of the gift." We are, in my opinion, headed in exactly the wrong direction - away from freedom and towards a government who forces compassion upon it's people, thus making it not compassion at all.

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Maddy said...

I think that's really cool :)

Callister said...

C.Jane - You are brave and good and a great example to me. Thank you for making well-thought out decisions and trying to be the best person you can be, for yourself, for your family, and for your country.

Whitney said...

Oh brother!!!!

Lori Ann said...

The progressive movement has no logical stopping point.

Today, health care for all. It's been a privilege, now it's a right.

What privilege will be the next right?

I am a social worker and I spend most of my life in the trenches.

And; not trying to judge you, CJane, but you remind me of all of my other 'raised in an upper middle class white 2 parent household' liberal friends.

I think you should move away from Utah. You won't be all that unique out here.









Mornings with Milo said...

I felt the need to post one more thought as an avid reader of Cjane. I enjoy your writing and love many of you posts. Just because I feel differently from you on this election, and I do as I stated earlier, does not change anything. I would be so bored if everyone in my circle of friends and family all echoed my same views, etc! We learn from listening to all realms of opinions and thankfully live in a country where we can express our independence by voting. By reading political commentary that greatly differs from mine, i do not come out of it feeling threatened, or on the flip side, feel like my views are far superior. I voted for who I thought addressed the needs that were important to me. And I'd like to believe that all of us were thoughtful in our decisions as our country is in a vulnerable state. I think a good dose of perspective and humility is needed by all. And despite our proclamations of doom and gloom or bliss about the results, life will carry on.

La Sirena said...

Well said, heartwarming, lovely, beautiful and brave.

Gracie73 said...

I read your blog because I like what you write and I enjoy every post. I do not care what your religion or your politics are, it's none of my business and I would never comment on either of those things. I think what you wrote to your children is beautiful as is all of your writing. This election has reared the heads of the ugly and bullies! Whatever happened to respecting someone even if their views are shared? I know you don't need your readers to support you, you are strong and confident. But it is nice to read all of the people who do, in fact, support you.

Laney said...

This is why I rarely come here anymore and I regret popping in today. Congratulations, you just voted for the end of our constitutional republic as we know it. See how you feel about your choice on 2013 when the Bush tax cuts expire and our taxes go up to pay for Obamacare.

I am so disappointed in you. And blaming your decision to vote Obama on your kids? Ugh. Pathetic. Clearly you are not well versed in the presidents's stance on partial birth abortion or the fact that the Mormon church does not support abortion, or you just don't care.

The Jones Family said...

Thank you so much for this post. You put into words so very well my own feelings. Thank you also for studying things out in your mind and praying. I did as well and, from what you have written, I believe that I am another Mormon who voted like you. I really appreciate this post. I am going to print it off and keep it....that's how much I like it.

Emily Graves said...

You are brave! You tell it like it is, FOR YOU! I appreciate that you are an example that people can't lump LDS women as such-and-such. Thank you for this! Just as racists try and lump people into convenient packages, it is a breath of fresh air that you can speak your mind and not be afraid. Is your family accepting of your choices? I hope so!

Miss C. said...

Love this! Thanks for being brave and confident in all aspects of your life. You a great representative of the church. It is amazing how politics can bring out the worst side of people. I have been embarrassed by some of the lds church members' reactions to this election. Christianity is the basis of the church and that is so quickly forgotten when politics are brought up. You clearly, are a great Christian woman.

7f0949fa-2a25-11e2-acd3-000bcdca4d7a said...

(Not) Worlds Sexiest Man---beside the fact that you are acerbic, self-righteous, condescending, and frankly jealous of CJane and her competency in her "art"...your blogs (or shall I say two blogs, each with the same single post) may well be the most unfunny, insipid, blog post I have seen to date. You clearly have no future in the "arts"...so don't quit you day job brother.

Mind Spittle said...

Why does being pro-life end with a baby's first breath? Why don't those who argue against abortion and premarital sex have the same passion for those struggling to keep their breath or ensuring there is enough clean air to greet new lungs?

Why does being pro-life mean the potential of the unborn outweighs the rights of the living?

I don't understand.

My convictions are my own. I act on them because they give me purpose, drive and hope for the future. I hope I express them in as thoughtful a manner as you did with this post, Courtney.






Unknown said...

Really brave and beautiful. Not to mention well written. I've never commented before but I am today :)

Morgan Lee said...

Man. Those of you who are trying to make your points through vitriol, ad hominem, and general shit-flinging, congratulations. You are soooo persuasive.

CJane voted for Obama to be "popular"? LMAO. You DO KNOW she lives in UTAH, right?



The Atomic Mom said...

My only question for you is, why not just come out and directly say, "I voted for Obama?" Why all the illusion? Someone in these commentes made the point that Conservatives care about things too. I just want to second that. I care about people, I just think we're better of if we leave the govt middle man out of it. I hope you're prepared for the consequences of your choice, because they will be many, and I don't think very good ones.

Amy said...
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Amy said...

Please, read this CONFERENCE TALK.

http://scriptures.byu.edu/gettalk.php?ID=1476

This was a conference address given by Marion G. Romney of the quorum of the 12 apostles that the brethren requested of him. It clearly describes the evils of President Obama's policies. Here are a few quotes.

"We have also gone a long way on the road to public ownership and management of the vital means of production. In both of these areas the free agency of Americans has been greatly abridged. Some argue that we have voluntarily surrendered this power to government. Be this as it may, the fact remains that the loss of freedom with the consent of the enslaved, or even at their request, is nonetheless slavery."

"As to the fruits of socialism, we all have our own opinions. I myself have watched its growth in our own country and observed it in operation in many other lands. But I have yet to see or hear of its freeing the hearts of men of selfishness and greed or of its bringing peace, plenty, or freedom. These things it will never bring, nor will it do away with idleness and promote "industry, thrift and self-respect," for it is founded, in theory and in practice, on force, the principle of the evil one."

"Now, not forgetting our duty to eschew socialism and support the just and holy principles of the Constitution, as directed by the Lord, I shall conclude these remarks..."

Please, Courtney, read this article. There is no way you can understand agency and be in favor of socialism (or as it is equivalently called in America, liberalism). Even the brethren and the scriptures testify against it.

http://scriptures.byu.edu/gettalk.php?ID=1476

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