Wednesday, August 25, 2010

It's A Good Thing I Forgive So Easily . . .

Today I got this video message in my inbox. It's from Brooke White. She was supposed to be the headliner for our first c jane presents rooftop concert series but then something happened, something she "can't talk about right now" and she won't be able to come. It's ok because Benton Paul is going to bring it hot with all sorts of shenanigans to light up the stage. And we are going to have a gorgeous time. Don't you worry. Even you Australia people who can't come anyway.

But I've got to be honest with you, I was a little disappointed with this video message. I mean, it's sort of blah. Like, where the heck is her motorized couch?







I am c jane and I forgive BUT I NEVER FORGET!!!
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cjanemail@gmail.com


60 comments:

Anonymous said...

lame. i'm sad about that. i wonder what her big dealio is. please, do tell, if she's ever allowed back.

This Girl loves to Talk said...

did you mention us lowly australian people?? thats why I love you cjane :)

Koby said...

What a disk-a-pointment...kind of like when your good girl friend makes a plan with you and then gets a better offer... you get kicked to the curb like an old soda can... :-(

(I think if it were me cancelling, I would attempt to look a bit more "sad", and sincere...)

Karen said...

Wow. Very lame.

Tana said...

I love Brooke White. I hope this opportunity is a great thing for her. And since I won't be gracing any Provo rooftops anytime soon, you know, it's no skin off my nose. (0= But I do hope, for Provo's and Rexburg's sake, that she does get around to it later.

Fun to watch the video. I especially like the "I'm frowning here, see, I'm pointing to my mouth" gesture.

Erin said...

She did seem kind of... insincere. Like... I've got this thing and it's so much better than your thing. So, I'm blowing you off, but I'll be back later!

Too sad for Provo.
Though we all know that you will still have a great time anyway!!!

Sammi said...

Uuugh....

o0o Mindy Gledhill album...

CDR said...

I have no idea who she is, and I don't live in Provo, although at times I wish I did. I have to say I think it was kind of gutsy/risky to post the message for many reasons, but I totally love that you did. I think it was a good way to communicate to her fans why she decided not to come, it seems like the fair thing to do.

The Lewis Family said...

wow, love it when something better comes along and you are the one who ends up dogged... not impressed.

~C

Wendy said...

I am a Brooke White fan...but that video did not impress. Seems like a little more sincerity was in order. She couldn't even look the camera in the eyes, evidence of her guilt. I wonder if she watched it before sending it out?

2Che said...

Brooke White's grandma is my friend and lives around the corner from me. Maybe I'll go investigate the "real" reason...

(Actually I'd go hang out with her Grandma Bev anytime...she's amazing!)

pollydove said...

well i thought brooke looked stinkin' adorable in the video ... it's probably for a good reason. yeah? maybe? hope so!

Tara : Damon said...

i LOVE benton paul!!! i listen to 'paris' on repeat, and 'i only see you' was my first dance with my new husband- he's so good!

Anonymous said...

How unprofessional this early in her career to burn bridges. With it already being advertised with her name plastered all over the posters etc. I hope she makes better decisions in the future or her 15 minutes of fame will be up.

Tasha said...

Oh, she would have been so wonderful. I love Brooke White. Sad. I wish I lived in Provo right now just so I could GO to the show. I am telling my brothers to go. Do you think they will listen to me? I sure hope so.

Butlers said...

Who the heck is she? Never heard of her. The great opportunity was the one she committed herself for.
Good for you for posting this so people can see/hear first hand her lame reasons.

Anonymous said...

I am sure there is a perfectly good reason she is unable to keep her commitment to sing on a Provo rooftop. Let's not jump to conclusions and call her lame. I hope the video wasn't posted just to get sympathy for cjane?

{april kennedy} said...

I forgive pretty easily too. And am so confused now. I was going to come on here and say what a cutie she is and good luck to the 'bigger thing'. But then I saw all these other comments. :( It left me sad. And now I'm all mixed up feeling because some of those points in the other comments are true. So I'm going to put those feelings aside and be reminded that forgiving easily leaves a happier feeling. Good luck Brooke and good luck CJane with your concert series!

Darilyn said...

Why is everyone being so judgmental of Brooke White? Come on, it's as if no one has anything else better to do than analyze an apology video. She apologized, leave it at that.

Mary Matt said...

Don't tell me you all haven't had to disappoint people in order to do the right thing for yourself at some point in your lives?!? She seems like a beautiful person and if you were a real fan you would want what's best for her. And C-Jane, you really shouldn't use your blog to mock someone just because you don't agree with her decisions. You had to know your followers would jump on her and shame on you for approving them. Remember how bad you felt and how angry you when people said mean/hurtful things about you? Kinda hypocritical don't you think? You should apologize to her because her decisions are not yours to judge. And it would be nice if you actually approved this comment, you sure didn't have any problem approving the comments where they called this girl that they've never met "lame & insincere". Something that if written about you, I'm sure you wouldn't have approved.

Anonymous said...

I can't see the video, but I'm surprised how many people jumped on the "snap judgement wagon."

Mindy Gledhill said...

HA!!! No one in the history of time will be able to top the motorized couch video. For that reason alone, we must forgive Brooke. It's not her fault.

Chas Hathaway said...

No motorized couch... I can't believe it. Not even an electric couch. They could have at LEAST done an electric chair...

Chas

lucy said...

She REALLY bugs me!!!

Kathleen Frances said...

I guess I don't blame her for choosing an important career opportunity, if that's in fact what is was, they can come around so little.

BUT I did think that her apology was a little insincere and a bit condescending when she assumed everyone would 'understanding'.

I think that might have been what rubbed some people the wrong way.

Anonymous said...

Oh come on, like you wouldn't take a pass on Provo, Utah and Rexburg, Idaho if it meant something bigger and better for your career? Of course you would.

amber said...

brooke schmooke. MINDY's gonna be there...you guys will still triumph!

jeanne said...

Good luck to Brooke, I hope she rocks what ever she does. Sweet that she took the time to do a vid rather than have someone knock off a response for her.

Forgive and forget. Life is worth so much more.

Lisa said...

Come on people! She obviously has an incredible opportunity! True friends would never hold anybody back from growth and opportunity! If that was our sister...cousin...best friend....on that video...we would all be saying..."you have to do what you have to do!!" Admit it!! I don't know her or C Jane or anyone involved. I just know human nature. If we were the girl in that video or someone in her family...WE WOULD ALL BE TAKING THAT OPPORTUNITY!! The rooftop will wait! If it's a big enough opportunity to miss for...then when she comes back and is able to perform...then the "rooftop" event will be even bigger with a bigger star! So cut her a break.

c jane said...

Woah there Mary Matt, she sent us the video to post. At least I was holding up my end of the bargain. And I did it with humor might I add, which is commendable, no?

I must also add that I never said she shouldn't take her lucky break. Actually I said we are fine moving forward with a great show.

But honestly, I think the video was lame.

c jane said...

Mary Matt, your accusations are are really annoying me so I need to add that I am not sure how much you read my blog's comments but I approve of unapproving comments all the time. ALL THE TIME. And you know what Mary Matt? Some of them are real doozies and it can be hard to read them and then publish them all in the name of fairness. But that is what we do when we are public people. So don't come at me with that point, it sucks.

And you calling me out to apologize when clearly you didn't even know the reason for posting this video? I mean it looks bad.

in the Garden of Earthly Delights said...

you GO c jane! tell it like it is.
and this is why i love your blog. plus, benton paul is waaaay better anyway.

samantha jane said...

So lame! She seems pretty insincere about the whole thing!

Anonymous said...

This reminds me of a story I read about a businessman who put in an order with a supplier, then later got a much better offer that made more sense in terms of the bottom line. This wise entrepreneur decided to stick with the agreement that he made with the first supplier even though he missed out on big profits. It turns out that this went a long way toward building trust with other (bigger) players in the industry who were aware of the transaction, and soon he was making it big time because he was known as someone who could be trusted. I agree with the poster who said her 15 minutes will soon be up if she keeps doing business this way. Brooke's decision will be perceived by many as evidence that she is flakey whether you think this is justified or not. That is the cold hard business reality no matter how big this "opportunity" happens to be. Sorry Brooke, but you blew it. Try to make a better decision next time.

Candice said...

Hmm...I've never heard of this girl so I don't feel I can say much, but there certainly is a lot to say about being a woman of your word.

Anonymous said...

This kind of thing happens all the time where people get better offers elsewhere and cancel. However, most people do not broadcast to the public at large that they got a better offer and would rather take their business elsewhere.

I do not know this person but her behavior strikes me of an unpolished immature singer/businesswoman. I do not know that forgiveness is the issue here. You just need to decide if you want to do business with someone who is unreliable. I would not because I could not trust the person.

Lauren said...

Well, the video might be a little lame, but her hair looks great!

Carrot Jello said...

I know what you're trying to do.
O.k., I will headline for you. All you had to do was ask.
I think I'll start out with "Feelings" and bring up the end with my own special version of "Sweet Child Of Mine."
You? are welcome.
Have your people call my people.
Oh wait, I don't have any people.
Have your people get me some people.
Then, when they're finished, have your people contact my people.

Carrot Jello said...

"But people don't know who you are Carrot!"
Well, I have no idea who Brooke White.
I rest my case.

Carrot Jello said...

And don't be so hard on "Mary Matt"
Don't you know she has silver buttons (buttons, buttons) up and down her back (back, back)?
Now that's rough.
Literally.

Sinclair said...

Well, I am sorry to say that I won't be there because I live states away, but I am a fan of Brook White and I am also sorry that your concert series will be Brookless.

I wish her the best of luck,and to me, she looked more uncomfortable than "lame" or "insincere" at having to break the date.

I applaud her for giving making a video at all and for sending it to you to post.

I love your humor, and I think some people just miss it sometimes. If their sense of humor is of a different type, it can cause crossed wires at the best of times...even more so in text, I think. Take it from someone whose humor has oft been mistaken for bristly seriousness.

Mary said...

I never said you shouldn't have posted the video. Honestly I thought the video was a great personal way to get the word out about her cancellation and offer her apologies. What I was commenting on is what you called "the humorous way you did it" because I saw it as more mockery than humorous. Maybe you meant it to be humorous, but the fact that you called her "video" lame, makes me think not. But I obviously am not you, and do not know. So if you really did not mean to mock her then hey, my mistake.

And about how you handle comments, you are correct. I definitely don't know what you do or do not allow. I only read comments every now & then. However I did read the comments where you were being harassed before they were deleted and the post you wrote afterwords. Hence my surprise at how the comments here seems to be purposely making her feel bad when they once were all about not judging someone you do not know.

And I'd respond to your last point when you said "And you calling...it looks bad" but I'm not sure what you mean.

And Carrot Jello, the pun is definitely a cute one. But I am little surprised...I haven't had anyone make that joke since the 4th grade.

Nichole and Jeremy said...

I used to watch the soaps when I was in High school. They are so stupid to me now and I can't believe I used to watch them. (Even though I have caught a few minutes of one I had not seen in years and could still follow the story line)

But now I read the comment section of your blog for my old soaps addiction. I am entertained daily by this secret little drama between all these people that don't know each other who feel powerful behind a computer.

I read your blog for the good. And the comment section for the Drama that it seems to inspire. Very funny!

Keep on keeping on!

Kelly Jean said...

Haha, I love your "I am c jane and I forgive BUT I NEVER FORGET!!!" line. You're awesome.

Carrot Jello said...

Why Mary, how did you know I was in 4th grade?
Probably CJane. She gives out info like that to people.
I'm gonna go tell my mom.

Carrot Jello said...

And, for the record...
there is a record being kept, right?
I thought Mary Matt was a combo wife/husband blogger name.
Had I known it was your real name, Mary, I wouldn't have sang my little song.
So, sorry for that.

BTW, I did google Brooke White, and now know who she is.
So really, Cjane, you are the one that brought her to my awareness, and therefore- she should be appreciative to you.
And maybe pay you or something.

The Smith crew said...

Yeah , maybe her video apology could have been a tad bit more creative and sincere. Brooke White came and performed at a small benefit concert for a young 22 year old girl dying from cancer in the small city of North Ogden. She flew up that same day and put on an awesome concert, she really is a very sweet person!

Anonymous said...

I love Brooke but sometimes things come up - no big deal. I'm sure she'll make good.
And not forgetting isn't really forgiving is it?

Anonymous said...

She did not look very sincere or sad at all. And the fact that she totally said she had something bigger and better offered. Lame. She had a prior commitment, to YOU! Whatever.

Anonymous said...

I agree with "Nichole and Jeremy" about the comment section. The drama is what I love. It was realy good a month or so ago when there was no moderation and the gloves were off. Great stuff. Now that the comments are moderated here and there aren't any comments allowed on the "Nie and You" blog, both have gotten a little boring.

Lisa said...

OH THE INTRIGUE!! I can't wait to see why Brooke was whisked away from the rooftop! I just bet it is something major...and there is going to be some people that are going to feel really bad for being mean to her. Like maybe....she is singing for dying Haitian orphans...or she was called on a mission...or she's pregnant and the morning sickness is just too much...or maybe she is coming to Louisiana and singing for us folks down here who don't like to butcher and hack people for such small things.

Eliza said...

I rarely read comments on here but had to do it for this one...51 didn't seem too formidable to wade through. Because I'm not involved at all with either party, I think I'm pretty neutral. Brooke White seems really cute and nice. My thoughts also, however, gravitated to the keeping-your-word business transaction story that someone referenced here (just read the same story the other day).

Tough call. We all make choices and have to live with them either way. I try to think of my own (all-too-frequent) poor choices as being the practice round for bigger ones that will come up later (where I will make the right one, of course!) Every time I find myself judging someone unfairly, it isn't a week before I find myself in a similar situation and curse myself. So maybe I should judge unfairly, so that I can find myself deciding between major gigs?

And, I personally got a giggle out of the Miss Mary Mack reference. I think that means I should be in the 4th grade as well.

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Kaylene said...

Dear c jane:

I’m Brooke White’s mom. I have never responded to a blog or comment before, ever in my life, and Brooke wouldn’t want me to. I don’t have a blog, and I rarely read blogs, expect your sister, Stephanie’s, which I enjoy a lot when I have a minute. I find it an interesting phenomenon that one can say whatever one feels on a blog and hide behind the technology as though we are not really speaking about a real person or people who have hearts and real feelings, because it’s not to their face. This is really sad to me. I would rather have this conversation face-to-face, as I think you are a lovely woman with so much good to do, and I’d like to have a sincere moment with you. However, this is the best we have so I will do the best I can. Your children are beautiful, and I know how much you love them, I can tell. I have a beautiful daughter who I love the way you love yours, and I know how much it would hurt you if anyone spoke untruths about her, and shared damaging words that are hard to take back, for all to see. I need you to know that your words and those of others are a misrepresentation on every level of who Brooke is. It is not necessary for me to number all of the charitable contributions that she makes each week, month, or year, but they are many. She is a giver, not a taker and has tirelessly worked hard to make sure she is always giving to the greater good. She recently left our family vacation mid-way to do an event for a young woman who was dying, and she was very humbled, and always is, by the experience of getting to help in some small way those who are in need. Over a year ago, she did the same for an event in Gilbert to benefit your own sister and husband and children after their tragic accident. She really wanted to do something to help, and felt blessed to have the honor. I believe they raised a good amount of money which is what she had hoped for, to ease some of their burdens. I’ve been able to take part in some of these charities, and I witness firsthand the love and concern that Brooke has for those in need. She will continue to do as much as she can to help, when she can. From what you have said, it seems you don’t understand or appreciate the fact that in life unexpected things happen, and plans must change. If this hasn’t happened to you yet, I can assure you it will someday, and I pray that there will be understanding in your behalf. I daily read a book written by a man that I love, Gordon B. Hinckley. A few days ago this is what I read, and his counsel and wisdom seem fitting here: Esteem For Others, “Do not indulge in put-downs, in pessimism, in self-recrimination. Never make fun at the expense of another. Look for virtue in the lives of all with whom you associate.” He also shares a relevant scripture, “Therefore, strengthen your brethren in all your conversation, in all your prayers, in all your exhortations, and in all your doings.” Cjane, perhaps this is your aim, but this time you missed the mark. I’m sad, and I don’t want to hurt you or make you feel bad, but as a mom I’m asking for you to do the right thing, and please think through things before you write, and ask yourself if it was about one you love, would you say it? Brooke asked me not to respond, as she knows this is part of the territory of her business, and she respects you, but I had to…I hope you can understand.

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Anonymous said...

If I were Brooke and my mom just wrote that, I would feel so dumb and be really mad at her! It was a lame insincere video MOM. Oh and Cjane never made any rude, or untruthful comments about your daughter. That was the rest of the world, you better get used to it if your daughter is going to be a "BIG STAR."

c jane said...

Dear Sister White,

I empathize with you, it's complicated having loved ones under constant public scrutiny. It makes us all crazy at times.

How you ever got through Simon Cowell is a wonder. You must really believe in your daughter, as you should, she's got incredible talent.

Best wishes,
c jane

Gail Gordon said...

Hi - I left you a comment on this very blog story but I guess you never approved it. It would be cool if you let people who do not know you but do read your blog the rules regarding comments. what criteria make the cut?
I read three blogs regularly (daily) - yours I read semi-regularly (I check in once a week). I do not understand why this blog has issues with comments. the other blogs i read, I can make a comment, negative or positive, anonymous or not and they will get published. could you enlighten us (or at least me) what you need from a reader in order to post their comment?
Thanks so much.
Gail